:twocents: In my time here on WS's I have seen comments time after time in case after case in regards to a mother/father not displaying tears or showing the proper perceived emotions that people think they should. As a mother who has lost a child all I can say is that I will never judge someone based on this. Every time I see these type of comments posted I think of the saying about walking a mile in someone elses shoes - and until one does they can never know. I do not wish for anyone to ever have to walk in those shoes. You never know how you will react until you are faced with the situation...never a truer statement. Had I of had camera spotlights on me during that time I probably would have had stones cast at me as well. By my very nature I am a very private person with my emotions, this did not change with the death of my son. I did not display my emotions as freely and as publicly at the time as some extended family members would have liked, this was made known to me. These people were not privy to the gut wrenching hell I allowed myself to go through behind closed doors. There is such a thing as being cried out. Oh, but not too worry, it does come back, ten fold, just not when your sitting around with a group of people and for their convenience. It is a roller coaster of emotions, you are on auto-pilot, a robot just going through the motions, sometimes medicated, other times just drained of all connection to the world. Based on my experience, I personally will never judge anyone based on what the expected emotional reaction from them should be. Now that is not to say that my hinky meter doesn't go off, but emotional reactions are not what I base anything on until all facts of a case are in. Anyhoo, just my two cents.
