I can more vividly picture SM being the one who was taunting and playing the women against each other. I think it is entirely possible and likely that after 15 years of marriage SM knew how to push TM buttons to get away with murder. He had plenty of money, a nice home and was able to make time to get away and have at least one affair. I think SM walked out the door when he felt like it, went where he wanted and did what he wanted. He left TM to age, care for the kids, create her lone world. When he needed something he played sweet & lovey dovey with TM and she trusted him again and again. JMO
I do think SM found out about the date Heather was on and SM wanted to hurt Heather and make Heather jealous and suffer. SM wanted Heather to pay and somehow he worked TM into the equation.
JMO all just IMO
I see where you are coming from and appreciate your opinion, but for some reason ..Sid strikes me as a spineless man-child.
the reasons I don't feel he orchestrated at least the intent to cause bodily harm (please please understand that I do feel the murder charges are correct though)
is because:
1. He wasn't "allowed" to have his own facebook.
2. Tammy actually called him stupid and belittled him in public/online.
3. He never once stuck up for himself.
4. He got her name on his pelvis but did she get a tattoo of his name?
5. He allowed her to call the shots
6. She (or her family) owned the property, the cars, and had the money.
7. Everything was always about Tammy
8. She left him, he never left her.
The list kinda goes on from there. I think Heather made him feel like he was some sort of adonis and he had zero responsiblities to her. Now, with as scary as Tammy is rumored to be (and we know how callous she is), could you imagine him standing up to her or pinning one woman against the other? From the sounds of it Heather wasn't really to keen on the drama but Tammy was. I don't feel this is because Sid taunted Tammy with Heather or vice versa, I think it's because maybe Sid took less interest to Tammy in the bedroom, didn't compliment her more and someone else got all his attention. Someone else made Sid feel good and Tammy was having absolutely none of that!
None of us can truly guess the dynamics of this toxic love triangle but a few of us have either been in Tammy's shoes or Heather's (maybe both). These things all seem to go by a script at times, at least until someone is caught - that's when situations take a life of their own. There's no real guidebook to cheating but there's a list of "signs" to know if your spouse is .. for a reason, know what I mean?
And the list I rattled off earlier on why sid probably was attracted to Heather or what she did for him was based on how I get men to spend tons of money on me in strip clubs or as a dominatrix. They are all married and these are all the things they lack at home - so I make them feel 100% and like the only thing that matters in my world. It's my job so it's not the same as a relationship, however those feelings are what they are desiring so badly in a relationship - so when they cheat and someone does those things, they are hooked .. at least temporarily.
