BBM What did he do after he got out? Did he use his degree?
Uh.........no. And that's all my fault, LOL! Yeah right.
He got early release on a flat 7 years, out in 4, because California was handing off their imate to Az, I do NOT know what nonsense made this seem like a good idea.
I filed divorce in late 1983, so since the ex was sooooo devastated, he continued with his self destructive behavior, continued his alliance with the Mexican Mafia, made an attempt on my life in 1986, I don't really know if it was because he saw I was pregnant that he didn't pull the trigger. In and out of prison/jail, homeless for 3 years, got beat up by some San Jose, Ca LE when they tried to do an illegal search and seizure of a back pack he was carrying. (he HAD heroin in it, but LE was just randomly stopping park goers. It was later determined they WERE doing illegal searches w/o cause) Ex's attorney threatened suit, which was probably a good thing because the ex was going down on the 3 strikes law in Cali. (he also had a shattered check, eye was totally blinded, and his hip crushed in the dog pile with LE)
Here I have to say, the ex was NEVER confrontational or combative with LE during his entire criminal history. All of his arrest reports said he was a gentleman, yes sir, no sir. That was his "mo". His attorney had a really strong case, so they made a deal. LE: Don't sue and we'll drop the charges. The medical at the jail was not addressing his busted up body, so they settled.
....and he ended back out on the streets for another 3 years until he wandered into an emergency room with his liver blown from Hep C and collapsed. He's still in San Jose, in an apartment, on methadone, crippled, on disability (he SHOULD have been on VA disability but that's an entirely different story) and maybe has 2 of his 9 lives left.
Don't get me wrong, he was an incredible person, I knew him since I was 5 years old. He made incredible grades in school, very althletic, star football player, all with an incredibly abusive household with sexual abuse to come home to. He was signed into the Marines at 17 during the Viet Nam conflict. He acquired his heroin addiction while on body bag duty. He and a few others were involved (unknowingly) with the major drug distribution of Frank Lucas. Heroin was put IN the body bag before shipment back to the states. The weight of the bag was indicated on the transport order BEFORE the drugs where placed inside. The ex's job, closely watched by his CO, was to find the body bags that didn't weigh the same as the transport doc. Then it was all about retrieving the packages from the bag and the body parts. The drugs were NOT hidden in false bottoms.
This totally freaked him out, and him and a buddy started raiding the medical supply depot for morphine ampules.........and the rest is history. He got involved with his brother and law and sister right before he was discharged and started the Salano Organization and ran heroin, until the operation was busted by the FBI. He walked away from it because they could never connect him with any possession/transport/or sales. His sister was put on life time probation and later married a San Jose LE. His brother in law died in prison during a fight for control of the Nuestra Familia.
He really was the love of my life, my soul mate. That was when he was straight and sober. I didn't know he was a junkie until a week after we were married. I had no experience with heroin or junkies, didn't have a clue about what I had got myself into.
When he got into the drinking and drugging, I got busted up. Busted clavicle, ankle, finger (ha, ha!), numerous beatings from head to toe, death threats, split lips, black eyes. Marines just have that upper hand.
If I had stayed he, or the environment he was in would have killed me. And it wasn't the environment I wanted to raise a child in.
I still love the person he was when he was sober. But I don't know who this person is now.
Was that long winded? :floorlaugh: