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thefragile7393 said:
I think I will stay here. I am seeing too many shades of my old horrible judgemental self in the main thread...and I have worked so hard to rid myself of being that way. I much prefer music and tornado talk (well...not that wish devastation on anyone).
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Pull up a barstool at Sidebar...it is officially time for a cocktail
 
There's a FB page set up for the town's tornado recovery, I'm reading posts from people volunteering to take injured or displaced horses.


I freaking love some people! Such good hearts! :beats:
 
geevee said:
(((Hug)))
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:) I work in behavioral health (as many here know) and I see sooo many people in this field who are just jaded and hard and cynical. You can't be that way if you work in this area (shouldn't be I should say) and I don't want to be the way I was...it wasn't a nice thing, thinking the world is all black and white. Thank you for that LOL. Just slightly triggered.:scared:
 
Who's a dog gotta...er..."visit" to get a drink around here?

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Venom said:
I'm not one to put myself out there, but right now I could use some help. I'm asking for prayers for myself. I'm sitting here crying. I know what I need to do, but I'm too scared to do it. My marriage is all but done. What makes it hard is my two kids and I'm a stay at home mom. Please if you could say a little prayer for me, I'd appreciate it.
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Been through that twice, Venom. Had a child with each one of my ex's. No child support whatsoever. All you can do is roll with the punches and move on. It won't be easy, but you have to do what you have to do. There will be times when you want to scream and/or cry. When you can find a place away from your kids, DO IT! Don't bottle it up, get it out of your system, and then go onto the next situation.
Don't overwhelm yourself by "projecting". Deal with the "Here and Now". Things will change unexpectedly so don't think about something that hasn't happened yet because it probably won't.
Best advice I was ever given is: 90% of the things we worry about never happen, the other 10% aren't half as bad as we thought they would be.
If you truly believe "It" is over, get into an attorney NOW. Be the "plaintiff", have your terms recorded in the initial filing. If you need a protective order, do it at the same time as the filing.
Because you are a stay at home mom, most attorneys will bill your "ex" for their representation. If that fails, Community Legal Aid can be a huge help.
Tell a family member or friend what is going on and have them available to sit your kids when you have to go through appts., court appearances, etc.
Ask for more than you need because the other side will always want to change the terms, and the judge will look at you as being cooperative if you give in a bit.
9 times out of 10, men don't want custody. It's a bluff, a very expensive one. My experience is that if you agree, they'll be begging to give custody back within a month.
Know what your assets and bills are, along with previous tax filings, what you own free and clear, and if there is a mortgage, car payments etc.
That's for starters.............just get in to see an attorney before he does.
 
Sorry folks, I just stumbled in here unawares. Had no idea what was going on with the tornados, so forgive me for sounding insensitive.
 
TexMex said:
Yeah, Alicia it was a pretty big one. Allison was the most rain I've ever seen. Just a tropical storm but it sat over Houston for days, raining in sheets. Then it moved out, turned and came back...flooding was so bad
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Thanks Tex, quite right. Wasn't Allison the one that flooded I-10 and with all the vehicles trapped? Holy cow, what a sight that was.
 
geevee said:
Thanks Tex, quite right. Wasn't Allison the one that flooded I-10 and with all the vehicles trapped? Holy cow, what a sight that was.
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It was...and it was this time of year, had to be June....I remember it just rained as hard as it could for days...it stopped for one day...we left town that day, a Friday for family reunion in East Texas...the storm came back Friday night. We came back Sunday and there were flooded cars everywhere...
 
i'll take a pitcher of mojito - freshly squeezed limes and muddled mint leaves.
No, I'm not sharing.
 
WSleuther OkieGranny has a blog I've been following. She's working on a missing persons project...her homey writing style is enjoyable to read. Looks like she last signed in at 2:56est today.

Maybe OkieGranny doesn't even live in Oklahoma. Doesn't matter. I'm thinking about her and hope she's well. Today, I hold OG and all Oklahomans especially tight in my heart.
 
thefragile7393 said:
:) I work in behavioral health (as many here know) and I see sooo many people in this field who are just jaded and hard and cynical. You can't be that way if you work in this area (shouldn't be I should say) and I don't want to be the way I was...it wasn't a nice thing, thinking the world is all black and white. Thank you for that LOL. Just slightly triggered.:scared:
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YW :) I can imagine how demanding the field itself is, must be hard to keep an even keel on a daily basis.
 
I am beyond frustrated with this trial. What a waste of money and time.
 
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