Respectfully snipped:
what do we really know aboout her (SM)
1. she raised Kyron from infancy.
TH has been the primary caretaker of Kyron for his whole life, first as a help to her good friend who was ill, then as the live in caretaker of Kyron for Kaine, and finally as his SM..
I'm just wondering about what's the right information about Terri raising Kyron from infancy.
Because there is a discrepancy.
Carol Moulton said that Kaine, 36, and Terri, 40, have been together for seven or eight years and that they have been married for four or five years. The couple have an 18-month-old girl.
"Terri has raised Kyron," her mother said. "She's been with him since he was an infant. She's as much of a mom as the mom is because the parents had separated about the time that Kyron was born."
She said he visits his biological mother in Medford every couple of weeks and that Desiree, 38, came to Portland as soon as she heard about his disappearance.
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/index.ssf/2010/06/details_emerge_about_the_day_k.html
Then we have this article:
Kyron was born Sept. 9, 2002, and Kaine and Desiree were officially divorced in 2003. Kaine and Desiree shared custody, but Kyron mostly lived with Desiree until 2004, when she went to Canada after suffering kidney failure.
Kyron moved in full time with his dad, now 36, an engineer at Intel. With a demanding job at the company's Jones Farm campus in Hillsboro, where he works in the architecture group, Kaine needed child care. So, Desiree's friend Terri moved in to help.
"Someone had to watch the baby," said Amanda Howards, the former wife of Kaine's brother Kristian. "Terri was her friend. She moved in just to help with the baby."
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Desiree never tried to regain custody of Kyron, though she has maintained a close relationship with her son, caring for him every weekend or so with her new husband, Medford police Detective Tony Young.
After Desiree returned to Oregon, Terri and Kaine stayed under the same roof while he worked at Intel and she cared for the kids. What started as a caregiving relationship blossomed.
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/index.ssf/2010/06/kyron_hormans_blended_family_f.html
So we have one source, Terri's mom, saying Terri and Kaine have been together for 7 or 8 years which would make it 2002 or 2003, about the time Kyron was born or a bit before. She refers to Terri raising Kyron from infancy.. She makes no mention in her account of Terri being a friend of Desirees who then got together with Kaine to help him take care of his child, rather her story is that Terri got together with Kaine and that's how she got involved with Kyron from his infancy.
The other article says Terri was friends with Desiree first and started a live-in child care relationship with Kaine in 2004 when Kyron was a toddler, and it developed into a full fledged relationship from there. (FWIW I don't see anywhere in that article where it says that Terri was first a caregiver for her good friend who was ill.) According to the article it would seem that Desiree was the caregiver for her son for the first two years or so.
So, based on these mainstream media articles, both quoting sources close to the family who should know something about them, and both saying different things, I say we still don't know what the Real Truth (tm) is. Have Terri and Kaine been together for 7-8 years which would be before Kyron was born, or for 6 years, since he was a toddler? Has Terri raised Kyron from infancy or from a two-year-old? Did her relationship with Kyron start because she was a friend of the mother's or because she was together with his dad?
Maybe we could assume that Terri's mom is not quite certain about her dates and times since she also says Desiree saw Kyron every other weekend, and thinks Kaine and Terri married 4 or 5 years ago, and the other article says every weekend and gives the date of the wedding in 2007, three years ago, which at least is verifiable by records. But wouldn't you remember if a child was a tiny baby or a two year old when he became an addition to your daughter's family?
The other option I can think of is that both accounts are true, sort of, depending on what the person you ask from knew at the time or wants to be made public now. If the relationship between Terri and Kaine in fact started seven or eight years ago they might have wanted to keep it somewhat quiet (for obvious reasons if Terri and Desiree were friends like the other article says) and waited to move in together officially, the child care arrangements making it more convenient for all parties later. In that scenario Terri could have spent a lot of time with the baby Kyron when he was with his dad, and both accounts ("raised him from infancy" and "raised him from 2004") could be true depending on if you mean the primary caretaker or an additional caretaker.
I hope this is not out of line. Whether I'm right or wrong my speculation stems directly out of a clear discrepancy between two mainstream media articles quoting family sources.
