what are you tying this statement back to?
The discussion was about MY's mom coming to live with them and how he didn't want that. I guess it's just me, when I lost my husband, all of my kids wanted me to come live with them. Course, I get along with all of the SO's.
On that note, I have a dear friend who's daughter was in a knock-down, drag-out abusive relationship for 8 years. The first thing her spouse told her is, 'No one knows what goes on in this household.'.................... It took her 8 years and almost her murder, before she got up the nerve and determination to divorce him. Course, he was in jail for a year for attempted murder.
Scott Peterson told an interviewer, 'No on knew what went on in our relationship, except Laci and me.' Later convicted of murder.
I know someone else who was in an abusive relationship, their spouse wouldn't let them talk about anything to do with the marriage.....This was a man, btw, sometimes it's not always the husband, but reversed, including the affair.
I know Linda was a bit outspoken as far as JY went and how he treated MY. But the couple did have loud, loud arguments with Linda in the home. It would be almost impossible to stay out of those disagreements at all. She was put in the middle!...and sometimes, even if you don't say anything, it's the fact that you're aware of the situation that the abuser doesn't want to let out. Kind of destroys their 'good guy' image.
I know all won't agree with this, but it is my opinion, and that's ok. It's just been what I've observed, fwiw.
JMHO
fran