fran
Former Member
This was a very long time ago, almost 40 years, ...................
When my first husband died at 27, I was at his sister's home (she and her family lived in the San Francisco area, and we lived in LA, county) with our newborn son. After I'd been there for about 1 1/2 days, my brother and sister in law showed up at their house. As I realized who was there and they walked into the room towards me, my sister in law started speaking softly to someone (it turned out to be my fil) at the door, and when I saw my bros and sil walk in, I stood up and said, "What the he!! are you doing here?"
Anyway, my reaction was, they were wrong. It isn't true. It didn't happen. It was someone else. Not my husband (although it was a fire in our house) No, no, no.........It took several hours to get home, by car, and we talked about what happened, but there was also long periods of silence as well. Oh, and we did stop to eat, which I didn't want to do, but they insisted I needed to eat, (by then it was late into the night, have no idea what time, just dark).
I couldn't return to my home, of course and they wouldn't let me go there anyway, my family all came to my fil's, by then about midnight or after, but I still was in denial. It wasn't true.
Anyway, I didn't believe it was him, I just knew it was a mistake, until I was at the funeral home the next day making arrangements.
I'm just trying to show the natural reaction of one who is placed in that situation. The idea that they drove all the way to Raliegh and didn't know what the COD was, how she died, is just incomprehensible to me. Not even asking for details? Then to lawyer up immediately without talking to LE, not asking questions, nothing.
Sorry, been there, done that, not IMHO would someone do that. But, as I said, JMHO.
fran
When my first husband died at 27, I was at his sister's home (she and her family lived in the San Francisco area, and we lived in LA, county) with our newborn son. After I'd been there for about 1 1/2 days, my brother and sister in law showed up at their house. As I realized who was there and they walked into the room towards me, my sister in law started speaking softly to someone (it turned out to be my fil) at the door, and when I saw my bros and sil walk in, I stood up and said, "What the he!! are you doing here?"
Anyway, my reaction was, they were wrong. It isn't true. It didn't happen. It was someone else. Not my husband (although it was a fire in our house) No, no, no.........It took several hours to get home, by car, and we talked about what happened, but there was also long periods of silence as well. Oh, and we did stop to eat, which I didn't want to do, but they insisted I needed to eat, (by then it was late into the night, have no idea what time, just dark).
I couldn't return to my home, of course and they wouldn't let me go there anyway, my family all came to my fil's, by then about midnight or after, but I still was in denial. It wasn't true.
Anyway, I didn't believe it was him, I just knew it was a mistake, until I was at the funeral home the next day making arrangements.
I'm just trying to show the natural reaction of one who is placed in that situation. The idea that they drove all the way to Raliegh and didn't know what the COD was, how she died, is just incomprehensible to me. Not even asking for details? Then to lawyer up immediately without talking to LE, not asking questions, nothing.
Sorry, been there, done that, not IMHO would someone do that. But, as I said, JMHO.
fran
