Hello Ami and Haeve,
Two great posts revealing some important insight! I'd like to share another anecdote to add to the insight of how NPDs (or those who certainly appear to be one, but who have not yet been diagnosed) respond to certain things...
Just real quickly and for insight into the NPD brain... The other day, my mother came to visit, invited for dinner. I shared with her about my husband -- who she adores because he dotes on her and would NEVER cross her -- explaining a flock of medical tests that he had just been through to make sure that he was not experiencing some of the toxic (potentially deadly) side effects of the particular heart medicine he is on. Towards the end of my explanation, she asked the name of the heart medicine (she did NOT know what it was.) I told her (I did not spell it out, though she is an ace at spelling and usually likes to know, there was no time to spell at the moment.)
Later, at the dinner table, my husband took his turn to speak (in a sense of shared convo at a dinner table), commencing to tell her about his tests (he didn't know that I had). She immediately tried to "alleviate" his need to speak, after all, if she can short circuit the speaking of others (as soon as they open their mouth), she can go on and on and on about "her." "Yes, I already know about those tests!" Heck, in my mom's mind my husband didn't need to speak -- my mom was already fully aware of the tests -- she expressed no concern about what he wanted to say, she knew what he was going to say, he could shut up so that she could speak (and repeat "about her").
Somewhat offended by the shutdown to my husband (and particularly the way it was done), I think I said something like, "Mom, you only know about those tests because I just told you." (kind of like saying, "he would like to share his experience and thoughts with you.") BTW, BIG MISTAKE, never challenge an NPD! I still have not learned how to communicate in a way to stay off the toes of an NPD! My mom responded back in an immediate biting shutdown to me -- one designed to impress my husband about how concerned she has been (yeah right), "NO, I HAVE BEEN STUDYING THIS!" I couldn't believe my ears. If I had stopped to challenge her veracity at that point (like, "So how do you spell the name of the drug he is on, and which tests did he need to determine if he is having side effects?") we would have had a melt down.
So back on topic... That which is important to the NPD is that they are the center of attention. It is all about "them." BUT...do not challenge their truthfulness, you just might find yourself, at the very least, shutdown in quick order OR the victim of their rage.
Now then... I have been thinking... That first LDT that Terri took was around the beginning of Kyron going missing. Then there was the 2nd, walked out on after initial questions and before hook up to the machine ...then the 3rd. The 2nd and 3rd tests were days after the first, the 3rd maybe being close to 2 weeks later? Just WHAT might have been known at that time, what questions might have been added to the LDT at that time to freak TH out?
Is it possible that the 2nd test started approaching questions that were more specific about that which TH had told LE about the day Kyron went missing? Perhaps, by the time the 2nd test was applied, they KNEW she was not at the locations she had said she was on that day. Maybe a question such as, "Is it possible that you went shopping at Albertsons on X street on the day Kyron went missing?" Or "Is it possible that you went to Sauvie Island instead of the gym on the day Kyron went missing?"
And about the 3rd test... Might another question or set of questions have been added due to what had been learned as of the date she went to take it? "Have you ever hired a landscaper to manage your lawn and garden?" or "We are aware that you had a landscaper working for you. Would you be surprised to learn that someone tried to hire this landscaper to kill their husband once?"
Oh how I would LOVE to hear the questions that were asked of TH, the answers to the questions AND the response of the LDT at the time of the test/answers. I would especially like to hear this accompanied by a later conversation from those who heard her complaints and discussions about the test -- from their varying perspectives of what was said, how it was said and the body language accompanying it. Perhaps we will hear this someday.