jessarox
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Perhaps, though I see her more as "fooled" or left out of the loop by him, rather than in denial about something wrong in their relationship. By her own account, she thought it was the "perfect Christian marriage." That's not necessarily denial - TC just wasn't being upfront with her about the fracture HE was obviously feeling. "Denial" is saying to your therapist all is peachy and you are a happy Christian wife (even though your husband is beating you 3x a week due to his alcoholism which, when you finally, a year later, get around to admitting to your therapist, is ALL your fault, NOT his...) I get the feeling it was more that she was oblivious to what was going on in his life and their relationship because he was utterly persuasive in hiding it from her. I also don't view her upset with ET as equivalent to victim-blaming, but see it more as another fractured prior relationship that she's trying to understand right now. I don't see her anger as displaced from one to the other--I think she's angry to varying degrees at both of them, and mostly at him ("she's a child!"). JMO, and I appreciate your thoughts.
I guess I'm using the wrong word to describe it. I think JC is and has been putting on the front of a "perfect Christian marriage" even though things aren't so peachy keen. She vaguely reminds me of Anna Duggar when Josh's infidelity came out although I don't expect JC to take Tad back like Anna took Josh back (which breaks my heart to think about). Anna and Josh always put on a happy face and even preached to others about how to have a "perfect Christian marriage" and yet, Josh was cheating on his wife and their marriage is clearly not as happy as it appeared.