I agree on better role models. I will not listen to certain musicians or watch some shows even if I like it because I'm pretty grossed out by certain "celebrities" and the way they present themselves. As far as role models in the real world, sometimes it's just not enough. I think guys and gals both go through different seasons in their life. A lot come out on top, whereas others get stuck in the ebb. I, myself, threw a party once that lasted a couple years and I had huge aspirations and a wonderful support system. I did, however, have a "fix it" attitude towards the influential man in my life (bad boy) and believed that love was enough. It happens to the best of us. O/T but you bring up a good point.
Thank you. Oprah (or somebody) pointed out that identifying a problem is the first step.
Some problems are easier to have do-overs than others (for instance, if you're not married yet upon realizing a tendency to pick wrong men).
Same goes for addictions. I have what is called a low bottom, in that, I realized I had a drinking problem when I was still in my twenties.
Actually, had a high tolerance for alcohol but, somewhere along the line, it started tripping me up.
It took me awhile, starts and stops, but, by the grace of God, I was able to put it down.
Why did/could I when some people cannot? No clue.
It is possible to change one's behavior though.
Aging helps some people mature too.
It is unfair (it is evil) when someone else takes away another person's chance to grow.
Keep in mind we're all different ages here.
My life is in its second season (I won't live longer than I've already been alive).
So, by stating a belief or a better way so-to-speak, does not mean an older person hasn't been there/gone through stuff they brought on theirself. Believe me, I could fill a whole thread with my stories, a lot of them bad ones.
After one gets past it, you have to forgive yourself. You become wiser.
No one can rush through the stages of life but each person speaks from the stage they are in presently.
All that said, in no way was I putting CM down.
I caught myself having similar thoughts (regarding MM) until I stopped and thought, wait a minute, MM struggled to find herself and her life had a sad ending.
So, I decided to write the thought down for younger women to ponder.