Regarding the discussions about BB's health and seeming to want attention. He's a man and he's been ill. My husband is a big baby when he's ill. He gets the sniffles and you'd think he's dying! I know my husband isn't the only one who does this, so maybe we can chalk it up to that? Maybe?
My husband is super stoic about pain. He is tough, tough, TOUGH and silent about any injury. But one sniffle.....omg....we all suffer when my man has a cold. It's pitiful.
Having said that, I do think BB is a different in that regard. I think he is a person who likes to be liked. That is not a flaw - it's just his personality, imo. Perhaps Missy's interest in fitness hurt his feelings at times and made him feel left out of her life (while at the same time, he might have been proud of her accomplishments....and at the same time wishing she gave the attention to him instead. People are complicated and can have more than one feeling at a time).
I think Missy probably did a lot in the immediate family and managed the household, and BB is now left alone as the adult and that might be very hard for him. Of course, losing a spouse suddenly to violence would be hard for anyone! But this might be the first time he really has to take charge of everything, and he's looking for some steady ground to stand on. He finds it in scripture, and he's certainly not the first person to do that. I think the public postings of scripture are a way to gather people around in support of himself. Again, nothing wrong with that....I just see it as someone who needs other people around. He's not the strong, silent type, but rather someone who leans on the strong-type of people in his life.
I think he might have been lonely in his marriage for awhile. Pure speculation, of course, and no judgment. Many people are sometimes lonely in marriage, and they were at the stage of marriage when changes were happening. All quite normal, from what we can see, but perhaps lonely. (We don't know of any outside relationships so I'm assuming at this point there were none.)
I also get the feeling - pure speculation - that Missy didn't fit in with her in-laws and their ideas of being a wife. I think they might have admired her parenting and her drive, while wishing she were "softer" if that is the right word...more of a woman behind the man, smiling at his accomplishments rather than being known for her own. Again, this is pure speculation.
IDK if he had the motive and drive to be involved with this case, but I do see a guy who wants to be liked, wants people around him, and perhaps someone who isn't a particularly deep thinker but someone who thinks by talking. I also see some selfishness as his public actions do seem to be about him.
I sincerely hope he is completely uninvolved. This has to be awful to live through.
JMOpinion, spouted off from my armchair
Wait, I tell a lie! My husband does own something he pulls over his head for bird hunting and it's camo just like your talking about but if I remember correctly it's more flappy (sorry can't think of a better term lol). Thanks for reminding me. He hasn't hunted birds for at least 5+ years so I forgot about it.
