What terrible news to wake up to although we knew it was coming :-( RIP Kayleigh
LH seems pretty normal to me on FB, seems very sociable, well liked etc. I don't think his FB screams 'psycho' at all, quite the opposite actually, even with the dark humour and like (would not call it an obsession) of horror films. If he is involved all the more scarier that he seems like a normal bloke to me :thinking:
I'm not criticising your impressions, we all see different things. But my impression was way too many pics with tarted up girls in late teens and early 20s, and while I don't like to be 'lookist' it seemed suspicious to me. Being into horror films is normal, but the obsession with the masks along with the 'sell my soul to the devil' remark put up red flags to me. It also bothered me that he was photographed with a girl who looked so much like Kayleigh, though probably the one he was with was a few years older, but same hair and hairstyle and very similar facial features.
And without being 'loner-ist' the other guy had a shifty sound to him, the sort of feel I associate with paedophiles...someone with problems interacting with people and prone to living out their desires and obscene fantasies by force. I don't feel this way about all loners, some are just shy and private people and there's nothing wrong with that.
On the other hand I already knew there was a teenage girl missing when I saw LH's profile, and it was a day later in the search that I found SB's profile so all of that might have coloured my impressions. If it wasn't for that, then I probably wouldn't think too much about either of them, but when you add in the knowledge of a missing teenage girl then it all seemed to add up to a horrible complete picture. But before a crime has been committed, every criminal and sicko had a life in which they hadn't committed a crime..they were the same person but without having actually done the deed which no one knew was in their future. I am not a believer in the ability to 100% foretell who is going to 'do something bad', I think seeing things with 20/20 hindsight gives some people the impression that is possible, but I don't believe it really is possible. Even these guys, if they are guilty, could have avoided this situation and gone through their lives doing nothing 'bad'....but *if* they are guilty, for them everything came together over the weekend and the nightmare possibility became a horrible reality that they chose not to walk away from.
Facebook is a very complicated beast, which we are all still learning about. I know so many adults who don't know how to ensure their stuff is private, and teenage posts shine through with naivety on there, following the crowd, being scared and the inability to tell real from fake...then add in that they can make their profile private and only share some posts with their parents and older relatives but share totally different things with their friends just from a single profile...and the ones who aren't savvy enough to do that can just make a second profile.
It also bothers me that FB's financial motivations often lead it to push people into not learning about the privacy options and not taking advantage of them. Something that someone only intended to share with a few family and friends can now be found via the search function or viewed in the sidebar by mutual friends. In this case there are a number of mutual friends between the victim and at least one of the guys who's being questioned...that's going to complicate the warnings of "don't go off with strangers" .... because this wasn't a total stranger, it was someone who lived locally and was known to people she knew. I would not like to be a parent in this world of FB and internet messaging and kids with their own mobile phones talking away to God knows who in private and receiving and sending God knows what kind of images and photos, and I am internet savvy and I do know how to set up my FB to be as private as I can get it, and that just scares me even more, because I also know how easy it is to hide things if you want to (from parents) but also how easy it is to find things that the naive have done in the belief that they were covering their tracks.
