Inthedetails
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I also think that sometimes we say things are okay because we don't want to see ourselves as either being a victim (at worst) or being played, taken advantage of, used, etc.I know you are in no way blaming ML, and I also believe that those of us here on WS are very victim-friendly and don’t blame ML or other victims either.
Your post reminded me of something from a lecture by a victims’ advocate. She said that people often blame a victim in order to “separate” themselves from the victim - if I can blame a victim for what happened to them - because of something they said or did, where they were, who they were with, etc - and I DON’T do those things, then I am SAFE.
After all, it can be very frightening to believe that all of us could be a victim and know that “there, but for the grace of God, go I”.
jmo