Are you saying that those who label the parents as failures, or anything else than what they ACTUALLY WERE (good parents) are NOT judging???
Clarify your statements.
You've made a judgment right there in labeling them "good parents". That's a value judgment.
Just for the sake of argument, what would you think about the suspect's parents who allegedly allowed their son to become heavily involved in the horrorcore movement at the tender age of ten? According to his sister, quoted in an article posted elsewhere on this thread, he has been an avid devotee of this horrible cult since 1999. Was it right for them to provide him with a computer, internet access, and permit him to plaster the walls of his room with disgusting images of death and gore? Who gave him the money to finance his "hobby"? I always thought parents should have some control over their ten-year old children. Does that make me "judgmental"?
Actually, to get to your objection, I don't think it's helpful to either blame the parents
or praise them. In fact, they should not be the focus at all. The public is not privy to the entire history of the family relationships.
Some children from reputedly "good" parents have grown up and done horrible things, murder, rob, you name it. Conversely, children from "bad" parents have gone on to contribute greatly to the world. And vice-versa. It's sometimes hard to pinpoint the causes of a child's descent into a life of crime.
The only point I was trying to make is that posters who might disagree with your point of view are not necessarily ignorant or naive. They merely disagree. There are strong opinions in a case like this that touches the fears and worries of parents with teenage children.
I might also add that "judging", per se, is often a good thing. We make judgments all the time about the rightness or wrongness of certain actions.
That's the realm of conscience. Parents also have to make judgments about the people and activities their children are involved with; and sometimes they make arguably "bad" decisions, and yes, could even be said to engage in "bad parenting". There are certain minimum standards of parenting, I believe, though not everyone agrees on how rigorous their duties should be.
But I would think such public discussions are not very helpful, or even prudent at this time, as some of the parents involved are hurt and grieving.