Coming out of Lurk-dom here!
These events have had me mezmerized, it's really close to home. Grew up close to Charlottesville and one of the posters, SAM, sounds like she may be from my hometown.
Few thoughts . . .
1) Friends not reporting her missing right away. My nickname was NO SHOW SHI****. I would get more bombed than my buddies and abandon them for anything that could get me higher. Once I missed a party being thrown for me because I went to an 11 a.m. wedding and I was off to the races by the time the party started at 7. Never showed up. For my own party! That was "normal" behavior for me and my girlfriends wouldn't think to call my family or police unless I was missing for an extended period of time. Someone mentioned it here already, if MH had not shown up/disappeared/etc. before, they probably didn't think THE ABSOLUTE worst had happened. That's the only thing I can think of for their behavior. I feel bad for the friends but think they really felt there was no need to call her parents or anyone - YET - based on previous experiences with MH.
2) Missing a concert she really wanted to see. Been there, done that too. Couldn't WAIT to see a concert in Charlottesville at Tracks (really dating myself here). Another friend showed up right before the concert started with some "goodies" and I spent the ENTIRE SHOW in the parking lot doing the "goodies" with him. I wasn't a regular drug user but whenever THAT stuff showed up, I was there. My desire to get high trumped just about everything else, including seeing the show and especially using good judgement.
3) MH didn't drive to the show - (maybe/maybe not) her own car. Could have been some major pre-show partying going on and quite possibly she was pretty impaired before arriving at the concert. Just speaking for myself here, I would be pretty ripped by 8. I could see myself stumbling around and ending up outside the arena, if only for air. I once went to a friend's cabin in WV, "disappeared" for hours, apparently had been in a blackout, and when I came to, I was in the woods, having no idea what had happened. Covered in dirt, mud and a big NASTY swollen red eye (bug bite).
Is it possible she was impaired, not really conscious of anything around her, wandered off and ended up in the woods or something somewhere around there? Maybe blacked out? Didn't wake up?
Honestly, I'm not trying to paint an ugly picture of MH. Alcohol + drug use is the only thing I can think of that would REMOTELY "explain" the friends not coming forward immediately or even the next morning.
No doubt, this is not the picture any parent wants painted of their daughter, especially affluent, prominent parents in their community. I almost can understand no one (parents, LE, even friends) talking about the alcohol/drugs angle because if she was abducted, the issue is THAT - the abduction and the unsavory person who took her. Perhaps they feel, and maybe it's true, the fact she was impaired isn't really relevant to the fact a criminal took her. But that information (impairment, etc.) would certainly EXPLAIN a lot of the circumstances surrounding her disappearance.
And finally, wonder how much of the area has been searched in and around the arena? The forensic astrology info (I know NOTHING about that sort of thing) mentioned an area 0 - 27 miles from the arena where she could possibly be.
I am currently Hot Springs, VA and in March, Beecher Hackney murdered two employees at the Homestead Resort and literally WALKED AWAY (left his car in the parking lot) and has not been found to date. It seems like it took days for LE to organize and mobilize searches of abandoned houses, barns, woods, etc. I took pictures from my window of the SWAT Team checking out the abandoned houses across the street - DAYS after the crime. AMW just did a segment on it a few weeks ago. Point being, my guess is LE is overwhelmed with all they deal on a daily basis and wonder how much and how far the search has extended. I do know they hold their info close, not releasing details to the public that WE feel we should know. A lot more has happened with the Hackney case than the public is aware of, LE just doesn't share anything. It IS disappointing. And in the MH case, there is so much conflicting info has been released!
Apologies in advance for the long post and trust I'm not trying to disparage MH, just offering my own ideas based on personal experience. THANK GOD I don't party my *advertiser censored** off anymore! I feel I'm not alone in saying that women who partied like I did were LUCKY to survive the crazy stuff we did when MH's age! We don't have the wisdom or judgement or caution in our 20's that we do in our 40's!
Prayers for MH, her family, friends . . . and all the web sleuthers!