Yet, the Mom was given custody of the children instead of the Dad. And, the daughter is now in foster care instead of being with the Dad??
Guys, it may take awhile for social services to clear a family member or other parent before custody is given to them. I see this happen a lot (my whole family works in social services down here and I see this in my practice). Sometimes they clear a family member or other parent right away. But sometimes they necessitate a hearing first.
The father has not seen his kids in a year. I believe that is because she made allegations, there may have been a restraining order and the kids acted as if they did not want to go with him. So, CPS needs to weed through that mess first. Not relinquishing the kids to him does not mean, IMO, that he is suspected at all of anything.
And yet this father did nothing to protect his children? Did he not believe her? He hasn't seen the children since December, why not? It sounds like he had the upper hand in the divorce, maybe he didn't want the children full time.
He clearly did not have the upper hand in the divorce. She was awarded sole custody in January and obtained restraining orders against him, although he apparently got one against her earlier.
Resnick initiated the first known classification system for motives of filicide about 40 years ago. The rarest and most unpredictable is revenge. (More common in paternal than maternal filicide, imo, but certainly not impossible.)
Resnick concluded mothers are most often responsible when a child under the age of 12 is murdered however (according to more recent statistical data) fathers tip the scales as children age. To clarify: Mothers and fathers are about equally culpable 53-47% across all filicides but the younger/older the victims the more those statistics vary. Mothers are more likely to kill younger children while fathers older. Boys are slightly more at risk of filicide than girls - under ones are most vulnerable but the 2nd highest category of filicide lands at the under 4s.
Psychotic filicides of only one child while allowing siblings to live are almost unheard of. I think it important to realise that while the mother in this case may be mentally ill it may well not rise to the level of a psychotic filicide...think of comparing Andrea Yates to Susan Smith. They should not be compared even though they committed the same act, kwim? When a psychotic mother kills her children she most often kills them all. Non-psychotic mothers, however, whom are not killing to benefit themselves are able to isolate a sole victim (based on research by Hatters Friedman). It could be a characteristic of another of Resnick's categories as well - the unwanted child.
Of 131 cases Resnick studied 14% were classed under 'unwanted child' and 4% under 'revenge'. He also found depression in 71% of the cases he reviewed.
There hasn't been enough research into possible precursors of filicides but there has been a lot of research done relatively recently by forensic psychiatrist Susan Hatters Friedman - several papers she's authored are available online. She is a great resource for learning more.
I also have about a gazillion links if anyone needs them. I hope they find this little cutie, preferably safe and alive...but if Mom is guilty of filicide I pray LE find him and have enough to convict her.
Great, informative post! Thank you.
Concerning the question of what happens when someone marries in order to gain US citizenship and then gets a divorce, I can't really answer. But, even illegals who enter the US and have natural born children while in the US, are granted citizenship since their children are Americans by birth.
Hi friend! I love you but I must point out that this is absolutely, unequivocally untrue. People whose kids were born here get deported all the time, every day, every hour and often, their minor children go with them.
Could be, but I'm going to allow her some slack because all the "trouble" began shortly after he was born.
Sept. '09 Sky born.
Dec. '09 He was left in the car at Target
Mar. '10 She was in a mental hospital
Jun. '10 She filed for divorce.
Seems she's been hospitalized 3x's for mental issues, but I can't find the dates. Nor when she moved out of the home. Mental issues including a straining divorce.... I really don't think taking pictures would be her first priority in the last year, imo.
There were a gazillion photos taken during that time period.
Her daughter is naked in a bath tub in quite a few of those photos. I'd say those are not appropriate photos to put in a public domain. But we are talking about the woman who left her child in a car while she went shopping, and now claims she left him alone in the car again when her car run out of gas. So what else is new?
As a person of European descent (born in the good ol' U.S. of A.), I have no problems with photos of kids in the bath. I just think it's stupid to publish them, or any pictures of one's kids in a manner that can allow someone to possibly identify them. Scary.
I don't like that we haven't seen Mom at all. Even if she's in with the PoPo...she has the right to leave at any time and should step out in front of a camera and plead for her kid...that's very telling
But why would anyone, if their kid turned up missing, stop lengthy interviews and say, "Ya' know what? I know we are trying to find my missing two year old but I really need to stop talking to you so the public can see me." Whether she harmed Sky or not, these first few days are intense, with the police.
**In regards to questions about why the mother may have ended up getting full custody, and the father only visitation;
In my experience (with friends and family members who have gone through divorce and custody battles) - when joint custody is granted, neither parent has to pay child support because they generally both physically care for the children an equal amount of time.
Oftentimes, fathers may WANT joint custody, but end up having to settle on visitation only because they can't stay home during the day with the children. If they have to work full-time, and especially if they have unconventional hours, its very difficult to arrange childcare. Sometimes, fathers don't want their children to be sent to daycare. And sometimes, its simply too overwhelming for fathers to suddenly be responsible for their children 85% of the time (15% time spent visiting mothers). In this case, the mother has obviously stayed home with the children since they were born, and the father has worked. The father might have no idea how to parent full-time without the mother.
In addition, she has listed only a high school education on her fb page. If she hasn't had any college education and very little work experience, its likely that she may not be able to support herself and the children if they were to have joint custody. By having full custody, the father pays child support which will support her and the children.
The support scenario you have stated is very rare in any state in the U.S. and is not the case in Washington state. Regardless of whether the parents have equal custody, if one earns slightly more than another, then there will very likely be a support order in favor of the parent earning less.
But your other information is on target, IMO.
If she decided to hide a live child because father got visitation rights, why only hide one child? She is clearly attached to her daughter, yet only the son is missing. So that makes me really doubt that this child is kept by someone in live state to hide him from dad.
Exactly.
She is not an "European mother" she has come to US as a child.
I think she came here at 12. That's a European mom for sure, in my experience.
Or he hopes she wouldn't.
BBM - Not necessarily. I have a good friend who is an amazing father and has been in a custody battle with his very unstable ex for over a year. She has done many things which any normal person would realize are emotionally harmful to her child, including one incident of completely losing it in front of a sheriff's deputy. You would think that he could easily get custody of his son but it is VERY difficult to prove a parent is unfit and change the status quo regarding custody. This "mother" that I know will continue to have primary custody until they have completely finalized any new arrangement with the court which could be another year.
Yup.
For the dad to be involved:
- the mom had to leave this child AGAIN (not likely after getting caught before, etc)
- the dad had to somehow drain gas or cut the gas line (without being detected)
- the dad had to follow mom (without being detected)
- the dad had to somehow believe the mom would leave one or both children behind
- the dad had to take the child unnoticed
I'm just not buying that all those pieces fell together. I don't think he's involved.
Add to that that he would have to know she had no cell phone or no service!
Not necessarily. IMO mom may believe daughter being in state custody is better than being with dad. Especially if she believes there is a chance someone in her family will 'win' custody via court.
As someone else posted, I too believe it is possible she scooted the boy off to the Ukraine. Where is gitana1? She is much better at knowing the Hauge countries with regards to international parental abduction. Any thoughts gitana? tia
jmo
The Ukraine just became a signatory to the Hague convention in 2007. So not much time to see whether they have a good track record of adhering to it. other countries who are signatories, like Germany and Italy, have abysmal track records.
Pakistan is not a signatory and there is a serious problem there with international child abductions. Dad being a Christian, though, he would be unlikely to want to go back. It is not a good climate for Christians there at the moment. Also, I just don't think Dad plays a part in this at all.
