The person I referred to regarding the blackmail on the computer firstly came just for advice and wasn’t particularly perturbed by the whole incident and just wanted to know how the criminals had done it so that it wouldn’t happen again.
It was for exactly this example detailed by you , that I coerced him into officially reporting it as if he didn’t then we couldn’t try to stop these evil people BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY was the fact that although he wasn’t bothered by it particularly, I explained that it could be a youth in that situation and because of fear, anxiety about telling parents etc that this has happened, may try to do something stupid to raise the money like ‘Robbery of a bank ‘ and end up in prison for many years, future ruined OR even worse, through sheer panic about what to do and shame that they personally feel ( although there’s no reason to but the young brain cannot always think as rationally as an adult as it’s not yet developed sufficiently) they commit suicide ( which sadly , has happened).
So well done to your friends child for speaking out even though the last thing he probably wanted to do was tell his parents.
Another reason why we need to ensure that we can discuss problems with our children and make them feel comfortable in coming to us no matter what they have done.
I tell my children that they should always come and tell me, no matter what as I cannot help if I don’t know and even if it’s really bad and I may feel disappointed in them, I will always love them and help them in anyway I can to put things right and do the right thing.