DaughterAlice
''I'm sorry if that sounds selfish, sweetie, but i
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I already DO have a (close) family member with whom I refuse to speak with (as a matter of protecting myself & my family), so I know that I am capable of this action, or should I say non-action. This person, however, is not my child. It is surely different when it's a child you have loved, nurtured, and raised. This, however, is my own perspective.
The perspective of GA & CA is very different.
If they TRULY, DEEPLY, HONESTLY stand by their claims of her innocence, then they should be there. They should visit her at every single opportunity. If they are afraid of what the press/public will say, then fine. Bring the newspaper & read it to her. Do the crossword puzzle with her. Laugh over the comics with her. There's plenty they can do together that will simultaneously show love and support for her while boring the snot out of all of us out here.
If they have doubts regarding her innocence, if they think there's a pretty good chance that she really did kill their innocent grandchild, then I wouldn't blame them one bit for not wanting to be there. But a message to the A family is this: DON'T YOU DARE KEEP PROCLAIMING HER INNOCENCE TO US WHEN YOU CAN'T EVEN BEAR TO LOOK AT HER YOURSELVES, FACE TO FACE. For me, their lack of visitation adds another nail in her coffin. I think they believe in their hearts that she's a monster, and they can't face her.
JMHO.
The perspective of GA & CA is very different.
If they TRULY, DEEPLY, HONESTLY stand by their claims of her innocence, then they should be there. They should visit her at every single opportunity. If they are afraid of what the press/public will say, then fine. Bring the newspaper & read it to her. Do the crossword puzzle with her. Laugh over the comics with her. There's plenty they can do together that will simultaneously show love and support for her while boring the snot out of all of us out here.
If they have doubts regarding her innocence, if they think there's a pretty good chance that she really did kill their innocent grandchild, then I wouldn't blame them one bit for not wanting to be there. But a message to the A family is this: DON'T YOU DARE KEEP PROCLAIMING HER INNOCENCE TO US WHEN YOU CAN'T EVEN BEAR TO LOOK AT HER YOURSELVES, FACE TO FACE. For me, their lack of visitation adds another nail in her coffin. I think they believe in their hearts that she's a monster, and they can't face her.
JMHO.