Yes, quite.
Let’s think about the lunch and the day in question… Imagine having to deal with such an enclave of relatives of your ex partner all at once, and to dine with them alone in your own home without a support person - and without even your teenage children at home to support you or provide what might have been a welcome distraction from the conversations and a buffer between the exes relatives and Erin.
Added to this, your ex hasn’t even bothered to turn up, so you’re potentially feeling very alone indeed and maybe even “set upon”…
What a potential “pressure cooker” situation!
I guess for me, if you don’t mind indulging me for a moment, fellow-Sleuthers…I have a bit of social anxiety and I don’t like conflict… If I was the host, I would have probably wanted to just hide under the table until they all left. But then, I wouldn’t have invited them in the first place.
So, why did she invite them?
All imo and speculation.
BBM
IBM
Maybe she didn't necessarily invite them, per se. It was, IIRC, EP who initiated the separation, and proceeded to develop an independent life. Statistically, at some stage, the majority of couples proceed to divorce.
I think it's entirely possible that EP had expressed such a wish.
It's entirely possible IMO that between SP and his parents, it was concluded that a discussion needed to occur with EP
Oops! Apologies to all. I appear to have posted my reply before I had completed it, so I'll start again.:
Maybe she didn't necessarily invite them, per se. It was, IIRC, EP who initiated the separation, and proceeded to develop an independent life. Statistically, at some stage, the majority of couples proceed to divorce.
I think it's entirely possible that EP had expressed such a wish. If so, given the strong influence of their church in their lives, SP and his parents
may have become very concerned about the prospect of the children having divorced parents, and concluded that a discussion needed to occur with EP.
Maybe the location was suggested by SP and/or his parents, and EP felt that it would be churlish to refuse.
Re the children, I'm acquainted with several "tweenage" children who, if they were informed that their father and grandparents were going to visit (and hence there would be important matters discussed), would likely roll their eyes and say something like "can we go to the flicks instead."
Yes, quite.
Let’s think about the lunch and the day in question… Imagine having to deal with such an enclave of relatives of your ex partner all at once, and to dine with them alone in your own home without a support person - and without even your teenage children at home to support you or provide what might have been a welcome distraction from the conversations and a buffer between the exes relatives and Erin.
Added to this, your ex hasn’t even bothered to turn up, so you’re potentially feeling very alone indeed and maybe even “set upon”…
What a potential “pressure cooker” situation!
I guess for me, if you don’t mind indulging me for a moment, fellow-Sleuthers…I have a bit of social anxiety and I don’t like conflict… If I was the host, I would have probably wanted to just hide under the table until they all left. But then, I wouldn’t have invited them in the first place.
So, why did she invite them?
All imo and speculation.
BBM
IBM
Oops! Apologies to all. I appear to have posted my reply before I had completed it, so I'll start again.:
Maybe she didn't necessarily invite them, per se. It was, IIRC, EP who initiated the separation, and proceeded to develop an independent life. Statistically, at some stage, the majority of couples proceed to divorce.
I think it's entirely possible that EP had expressed such a wish. If so, given the strong influence of their church in their lives, SP and his parents
may have become very concerned about the prospect of the children having divorced parents, and concluded that a discussion needed to occur with EP.
Maybe the location was suggested by SP and/or his parents, and EP felt that it would be churlish to refuse.
Re the children, I'm acquainted with several "tweenage" children who, if they were informed that their father and grandparents were going to visit (and hence there would be important matters discussed), would likely roll their eyes and say something like "can we go to the flicks instead Mum?"