BBM:Not directed at you, and this falls at random because I have seen it a lot in this thread…. It doesn’t sit right with me that women are getting blamed for letting these men into their lives. These men are GOOD at what they do. They love bomb and mirror and manipulate. They lie about every detail of their pasts and make themselves the victim. By the time their targets begin to see cracks… it is way too late.
Professional con artists, narcissists, abusers… men who need women to take care of them financially— that’s who is to blame. Not the women who choose to trust and have open hearts.
Not saying Rebecca is 100% a victim because she did some deplorable things too. But I truly believe Jake lied about his past and conned her.
It's never "way too late."
Where there's a will there's a way and there's plenty of help out there and they choose not to use it.
If a woman is desperate for a man it does make her vulnerable to all you described yet it is no excuse staying in a DV situation.
Then enter the women who stay in abusive homes where their children are the victims, many do not want to lose the guy so they don't report the child abuse to the authorities and/or they know if they do report him their lifestyle and financial situation will change.
IMO