Neither one alone would do what they both did together. Are they more than just friends? moo
I know that my point of view will be shared by very very few people.
I think that Bryers dad was telling the truth as best he could. Despite issues from seeing his father die of aids Alan Schmegelsky gets married and hopes to live out the standard get married, settle down, be happy dream. Looking at older pictures he’s uploaded Bryer (and his father Alan) looks quite happy as a young boy and they do seem to share a great father-son connection. But it doesn’t work out well for whatever reason. He claims it’s because his wife doesn’t act like the woman he thought he married and is abusive in the marriage so he files for divorce. The divorce gets nasty. His wife, Bryers mother, restricts his access to his son, although I’m not sure it was for legitimate reasons as it could have been more to hurt her ex-husband. •just to note that a neighbour who used to live beside Bryers grandmother said that when Bryer was 11, 12, 13 that he used to spend a lot of time at her place because “he had a real






home life”.
Based on the letter that Bryers mother wrote to the papers pleading with him to come home I’m in the opinion that his mother was /is quite like the ex-husband claims and at the very least Bryers emotional well being was not her first priority. Case in point she thought that buying him video games should have been enough for him to be happy. Believing his son was not being nurtured and cared for probably drove him to the behaviours that resulted in the charges against him. A vicious cycle due the lack of feeling heard about his concerns for his son led him to trying harder to find a way to be involved in his sons life. When he finally manages to be awarded visitation it’s years later and under supervision. He sees how much his son has changed in the years and tries to involve himself in his life as best he can, trying to make up for years of believed neglect. Alan Schmegelsky seems to have had some success in construction, at one time was construction firm boss. But by one account he’s been homeless for the past two years yet he has still managed to make bi-weekly/monthly visits to see Bryer, even renting a hotel for some of the visits. When confronted with the news his son was charged with second degree murder all that guilt overwhelms him and we see him as we did in the video of him losing control when asked about it by media.
Children raised in an environment that denied or ignored their emotional needs can (most likely will) become cold and calculating, unable to genuinely care for/about anything. It’s truly a completely foreign concept for them. But is Bryer as affected by how his mother raised him as the father claims? I do not know. That really is only something that a person with years of training can determine, and only after seeing Bryer in a professional sense for some amount of time.
In the meantime Kam has been friends with Bryer since elementary school. By all accounts he is a considerate and kind kid. This trait could be his downfall as he’s seen the awful things Bryers experienced and could well feel as though he has to help protect and save him, or at the very least care for him because he has no one else. It’s a bond that can be stronger than physical or sexual, and unfortunately more insidious at times.