I've added my comments in bold
I've copied your comments here because the way they were embedded in my quoted post made it hard to do any other way.
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he didn't send her a text when he got home, he waited at least 4 hours or more before texting her.
I didn't realize when I posted that that Eileen was referring to 11:30am.
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she knew that Dylan had arrived and been picked up by MR, so why would she think he wasn't safe?
:twocents: Because he didn't answer her text Sun night, and still didn't answer her text the next morning, and still didn't answer her text all Mon
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Dylan had been in his fathers care for less than 24 hours, she should not need to be chasing contact, non custodial parents don't like it when they think the custodial parent is checking up on them.
I see this differently. We'll have to agree to disagree.
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what report is that? can you please provide a link because I've never heard that before. IIRC it was close to 5pm when she received the text from MR, how much more of her work day would there have been? she was over 5 hours away from where Dylan disappeared, what difference would it have made if she left at 4.30 or 5pm? should she have flown instead of driven to save a lot of time in getting there too?
She remembers receiving the text Nov. 19 from Mark Redwine and contacting the Bayfield Marshals Office to report Dylan missing. She headed to the area after work.
Read more: http://www.gazette.com/articles/mom-149885-monument-disappearance.html#ixzz2KK3W7rvq
I don't know her work hours. I wouldn't have waited a single minute, but then I wouldn't go to bed not getting a response to a text to my child, and I certainly wouldn't have gone to work the next morning and stayed there all day, especially having texted a second time and getting no response. I'd have contacted my child's father the night before to make sure my child was okay. The point though is it shows to me that she wasn't worried about Dylan's missing status, and it adds to the basis of
my opinion that Dylan's norm was footloose and fancy free. :twocents:
These are not judgements of Elaine's parenting. They are observations and my opinion of Dylan's norm based on those observations. I don't care if ER was a good or bad or okay or whatever parent. I care about trying to figure out what happened to Dylan, and to do that I need to know a child's norm, so I can figure out what things happened that were unusual for that child, to see if there's a clue in there. That's it. :twocents:
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again can you please provide a link to that. Have her comments been interpreted correctly or have people jumped to conclusions? was she was referring to when Dylan was with his father that he would text her where he landed for the night or just in general? and did he not always text her at night when with his father or at a friends place for the night, if she knew who he was with I don't think its odd that he didn't always text her at night, because when kids are at sleepovers or with their father they don't always ring or text Mom.
link above. Have Mark's comments been interpreted correctly or have people jumped to conclusions? Speaking for myself, believe me, I don't jump to conclusions. I agonize and study things over and over and look stuff up and go back and compare. It drives me crazy. Wish I could stop it. I wish especially so in this case. I don't usually follow what I think of as trailer park smack down vengeful ex-spouse fighting cases. The problem for me is that 1) Dylan looks exactly like my youngest at that age and he stole my heart, and 2) at the bottom of the disgusting mud-slinging is that sweetheart of a little boy and I have a personal need to know what the hell happened to him. That's hard to put aside. Believe me, I've tried again and again. Mark doesn't call me back. Elaine doesn't call me back. Dylan calls me back, and I can not ignore him.
So far as interpreted correctly - people observe and interpret the actions of people they don't know all day every day all throughout the hundreds of cases and thousands of pages all over this forum. Most of it, well, who's to say if it's correct or incorrect? It's almost entirely opinion and perception and stuff like that. Dealing with people that the vast majority have never known, it's hard to say what's correct or incorrect. It's a big huge guessing game.
Sorry for going on and on. I'm particularly upset about this case today. I'm going to try to watch a movie or read a book or *something* to take a breather some time today, and just go back to lurk mode.
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