CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #35

[Dee10]

“We don’t know where Dylan’s at. We have no idea where Dylan’s at. It could be anywhere,” said Mark.

It??? Reporter error?

 

[tlcya]

MOO IMO etc etc Jazzhands

I find his statement odd in that it appears to shift blame onto mom. I get why mom feels MR is not being asl helpful as he could, because of their strained relationship and the fact Dylan disappeared on MR's watch. I get, to some degree, why MR has no wish to deal with his ex, who at this point has made no bones about her feelings about MR.

But the statements about Dylan not being the type of kid to run away, followed by his speculating that he in effect did just that because he is torn between his parents is strange to me.

Then he goes onto say that Dylan may be watching all this play out from somewhere with the insinuation that the bad blood prevents Dylan from wanting to return. :waitasec:

 

[tlcya]

It??? Reporter error?

I think it is simply MR manner of speaking. "It" refers to Dylan's location.

 

[MamaJoJo]

I think it is simply MR manner of speaking. "It" refers to Dylan's location.

I agree.

 

[MamaJoJo]

MOO IMO etc etc Jazzhands

I find his statement odd in that it appears to shift blame onto mom. I get why mom feels MR is not being asl helpful as he could, because of their strained relationship and the fact Dylan disappeared on MR's watch. I get, to some degree, why MR has no wish to deal with his ex, who at this point has made no bones about her feelings about MR.

But the statements about Dylan not being the type of kid to run away, followed by his speculating that he in effect did just that because he is torn between his parents is strange to me.

Then he goes onto say that Dylan may be watching all this play out from somewhere with the insinuation that the bad blood prevents Dylan from wanting to return. :waitasec:

I actually read these statements as if MR is shifting blame to Dylan.

 

[tlcya]

I actually read these statements as if MR is shifting blame to Dylan.

I took it as blaming ER

ETA but we are in agreement about the shifting going on.

 

[Psychic Sleuth]

“My ex-wife and I both agree that Dylan is not the kind of kid that would run away but I also think that there’s a possibility that Dylan was torn between his parents,” said Mark.

“My fear is he’s out there somewhere, able to see what’s going on and he sees the conflict going on between his mom and I,” said Mark. “I think that’s a huge concern. But who knows what goes through a 13-year-old’s head.”

Ok am speechless. So in the first sentence he agrees that Dylan would not run away. BUT his fear is he's out there somewhere able to see what's going on and he sees the conflict?

So if Dylan did not run away WHERE is he out there somewhere? This place where he's able to see what's going on... Where is this exactly Mark? And this is a huge concern to whom? Dylan? So much so that he has decided he'd rather stay with his abductor?

This is absurd!!

 

[MamaJoJo]

Is he really suggesting that his 13 year old son voluntarily won't come back home because he is upset that "mom and dad" don't get along?
So what does he think his 13 year old son has been doing all this time?

MOO IMO etc etc Jazzhands

I find his statement odd in that it appears to shift blame onto mom. I get why mom feels MR is not being asl helpful as he could, because of their strained relationship and the fact Dylan disappeared on MR's watch. I get, to some degree, why MR has no wish to deal with his ex, who at this point has made no bones about her feelings about MR.

But the statements about Dylan not being the type of kid to run away, followed by his speculating that he in effect did just that because he is torn between his parents is strange to me.

Then he goes onto say that Dylan may be watching all this play out from somewhere with the insinuation that the bad blood prevents Dylan from wanting to return. :waitasec:

This is what I was trying to do (use two quotes)! I agree with you jjenny.

 

[Psychic Sleuth]

I actually read these statements as if MR is shifting blame to Dylan.

<modsnip>. I don't see how anyone could not see through this guy.

 

[MamaJoJo]

“My ex-wife and I both agree that Dylan is not the kind of kid that would run away but I also think that there’s a possibility that Dylan was torn between his parents,” said Mark.

“My fear is he’s out there somewhere, able to see what’s going on and he sees the conflict going on between his mom and I,” said Mark. “I think that’s a huge concern. But who knows what goes through a 13-year-old’s head.”

Ok am speechless. So in the first sentence he agrees that Dylan would not run away. BUT his fear is he's out there somewhere able to see what's going on and he sees the conflict?

So if Dylan did not run away WHERE is he out there somewhere? This place where he's able to see what's going on... Where is this exactly Mark? And this is a huge concern to whom? Dylan? So much so that he has decided he'd rather stay with his abductor?

This is absurd!!

BBM
Or that he'd rather stay away on his own accord?! Absurd!

 

[Confusion]

I guess I'll have to do some thinking on this - my understanding seems to be different from everybody else's. I thought that “My ex-wife and I both agree that Dylan is not the kind of kid that would run away but I also think that there’s a possibility that Dylan was torn between his parents,” meant that he's not the type, but he might have done it for this reason; something like, "I don't care for spaghetti, but I'll eat it if I'm really hungry."

I didn't think the other part meant that DR had a choice about whether he went home or not, but more that he was concerned about the effect their conflict might be having on him if he does have any access to the media. Now I have to decide if I agree more with what I think or with what everybody else does. :waitasec: MOO

 

[azgrandma]

I actually read these statements as if MR is shifting blame to Dylan.

Well why wouldn't he, he's blamed ER and CR all he can, so it's Dylan's turn.

 

[KateNY]

Is MR insinuating he ran away, or not? :waitasec:

Seems it would make a difference to LE in how they handle a case?



Well, he did ask the 'abductor' to...

We need to know that whoever's responsible for this has enough compassion in their heart to change what's been done and bring him home..

drop him off at Wal-Mart, let him come home...

from that last uncut interview

 

[SmoothOperator]

moo Mark has continued to claim that Elaine is looking for someone to blame.. I'm(Mark) the easiest one for Elaine to blame.. but IMO the one who seems to be focused on blame and shifting that blame is Mark..jmo.

 

[cluciano63]

Gosh, maybe it was better when MR wouldn't talk...he doesn't do himself any favors.

Why does he think he has to keep coming up with his "theories"? I thought he was content to leave it to LE. And LE thinks Dylan is a crime victim.

 

[azgrandma]

I guess I'll have to do some thinking on this - my understanding seems to be different from everybody else's. I thought that &#8220;My ex-wife and I both agree that Dylan is not the kind of kid that would run away but I also think that there&#8217;s a possibility that Dylan was torn between his parents,&#8221; meant that he's not the type, but he might have done it for this reason; something like, "I don't care for spaghetti, but I'll eat it if I'm really hungry."

I didn't think the other part meant that DR had a choice about whether he went home or not, but more that he was concerned about the effect their conflict might be having on him if he does have any access to the media. Now I have to decide if I agree more with what I think or with what everybody else does. :waitasec: MOO

BBM - are you saying that Dylan may not have a choice to go home or not, but he has access to read news, watch news, follow fb, all that and can't communicate? Doesn't make sense IMO. I can't see a 14 yo boy viewing the pain his mother is in and saying, oh well, when they stop arguing I'll come home.

IMOO - Mark is doing what he does best, coming up with excuses. <Mod Snip>. IMO MR is giving an excuse for Dylan's disappearance and allowing ER to absorb some of the responsibility.

 

[cattlekate]

<modsnip>. I don't see how anyone could not see through this guy.

I can. <modsnip>
Everything revolves around Mark Redwine and his victimhood. And I don't see a lick of empathy in any of his interviews. Mark has learned traits to make you feel sorry for him - but it doesn't wash. Like how Mark used his hand to squeeze his face, and then shift, at the end of Melissa's interview - I think that was not showing grief or sadness - it was a learned behavior of "showing sadness."

 

[ColdHands]

This link has the video for the CBS Denver interview:
http://denver.cbslocal.com/2013/02/...-confirms-appearance-on-dr-phil-with-ex-wife/

I really really wish they'd have let Bender talk about this notion that Dylan might have left on his own or be staying away because of the parental conflict.

ETA: MR says "Dylan could be anywhere" not "It could be anywhere" as stated in the article. Makes me really appreciate that MB put the unedited interviews up for all to see. Obviously edited like this, it's hard to know what MR was attempting to say.

 

[Psychic Sleuth]

Nothing he says makes any sense. I'm starting to wonder if he's losing it.

I just shake my head...

 

[Psychic Sleuth]

Ok someone clarify this for me. He is saying that both parents agree that Dylan would not run away correct? And in the prior interview he was also asking Dylan's abductor to dump him at Walmart etc. And he stated early on that he thought Dylan was abducted and was nowhere in the area. But now he's saying he's concerned that Dylan may now be choosing not to come because of the bickering going on between his parents?

Is this what this man is trying to say here?