I don't remember where at the moment so I can't vouch for the accuracy, but I'm sure I read that prior to ER moving to Colorado Springs, they shared joint custody. I will see if I can find it somewhere. All MOO
ETA: ER's statement on NG:
REDWINE: Yes. I mean, I just don`t think -- you know, we had joint parenting time. And because, you know, Mark had to earn a living and we live in a small community, he was on the road a lot. So he didn`t spend a lot of time with Dylan in the three years prior to Dylan moving to Colorado Springs. So I just don`t think he knew Dylan all that well.
Jumping off your post. I don't think CO has alimony, but not positive. My husband's ex lives there and they had kids who are now grown. All he was ordered to pay was child support.
If they had joint custody, I can't understand why either one of them would be paying the other child support, unless he had Dylan with him more than she did. CO may look at joint custody different than other states but to me, joint means they have the child equal time... say 2 weeks at one parent's and 2 weeks with the other, and alternate holidays.
Maybe it was shared custody, and he was the primary custodian? IDK, but I can't feature the court making HER pay HIM child support unless she did not have primary custody at the time.
When my husband's daughter came to live with us, there was no child support either way for the few years she was here, because the son stayed with his mother, so the court said one cancelled out the other... they did not order her to pay him child support, and they suspended the child support he was paying her for the son. And btw, they live in CO, too.
Maybe this is what the court battles have been about, the custody and child support. I still don't get why she would have had to pay him, or why she wouldn't have had primary custody, since he was on the road so much. Something does not add up! This could shed a whole new light on the situation.