This is a casebook example of domestic violence homicide. The myth needs to be put to rest that males cannot be abused, psychologically, physically or sexually abused. It happened here in this case.imo.
How many times have we read about cases where the victim told someone else 'he is going to kill me' and it happened? Too many times. And how did they know? Because the abuse and violence was esculating just like in this case with Jodi slashing tires and stalking and winding up sneeking into his home and into his bed while he was sleeping.
Jodi Arias for whatever reason used sex as a tool to control the one she really wanted. Was it because she loved Travis? I highly doubt it. Psychopaths want ownership and dominance not love. After murdering him she goes onto another smuck coyly hoping she will be able to dominate him.
Maybe she knew Travis had never experienced some of the things she so willingly did and new experiences can and often are very exciting since all human beings respond to human touch. Imo she pulled out ever sex trick in the book. Thats all Jodi had and she used it trying to gain ownership of Travis but even the kinky sex didnt work for her and she had nothing more.
Many women and men have lost their good senses when raw sex comes into play. Women have even left very good husbands and their children behind to run to a very bad man that didnt care about her but just the sex. That is why the grass is greener on the other side of the fence because most of the time it is fertilized with nothing but BS. So some men and some women are alike in some aspects.
I understand Travis. I was like him and also a victim of domestic violence at one time by my ex. I shamefully admit, I did have sex with him when he demanded it. I hated it and I did it out of fear and the desperate need to appease a monster who would rage if I did not. It even continued after I moved out and had separated from him. I was just too fearful at that time to say 'no.' He too was stalking me. I knew at that time he was capable of anything. Near the end this was Travis's life with Jodi too imo. He had come across a situation with a dominant overbearing obsessive female who would not take 'no' for an answer no matter how many times he tried to tell her it was over and to leave him alone.
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This is an issue that's very important to me but it's difficult to convince people that the problem is real as the myth of male victimization is so engrained in society, as I wrote in my post upthread.
I think if we look at more "traditional victims" (women and children) and how society responds to them, we can guage why there's such a problem for men.
When a woman is in a domestic violence relationship, there's often a good deal of blame and questioning of her.
"Why do you stick around?" "Why don't you leave?" "Why do you keep coming back?" "You must like how he treats you." "I would never stay." "I'm too strong to ever let a man treat me like that." "It must not be that bad."
LE often questions these women, if there's no witness or physical proof it's hard to prove the abuse. Verbal or psychological manipulation and abuse are hard to substantiate. Involving LE often sets off the abuser. It's embarrassing and shameful. It's a cycle, part of the relationship is comfortable and familiar while there's dysfunction and who knows what else that keeps the victim paralyzed.
I also think of children who are victims of sexual abuse. How often are they questioned in the truthfulness of their accusations? When their abusers are family members, other family members don't believe the children. When it's a religious leader or an athletic coach or trusted member of society, the child often comes under immediate scrutiny. There's shame in being a victim. We're programmed to examine the victim and figure out why they might be accusing someone, how could the abuser possibly be so evil, surely no one could do something so horrific so what's wrong with the child. When a child is a victim of repeated abuse, it becomes more and more puzzling why that child "put up" with the abuse for weeks, months, or years. How could they "let" a pedophile keep doing that to them?
Now I'll be clear.... I'm not (I repeat NOT) comparing JA to the abusers in either scenario I described above, but there is so much shame and stigma for those who are victimized everyday. The struggle is so great for the "expected victims" for whom we have advocacy groups established, but for men there's just a block in understanding and embracing that it could possibly be real. I can imagine it would be embarrassing for a grown, strong, strapping man to admit to family and friends that this frisky seductress he was romping around with made him feel some level of fear and intimidation. I imagine he thought he could handle everything on his own. Calling and reporting the slashed tires would be too much. He had it under control. He could placate her, satisfy his needs, and she wouldn't go crazy. Except all along she's stewing and brewing and plotting his violent end.
Sadly I think it's a big problem for our boys and men, who could potentially be victims of dangerous women but aren't properly equipped. Imagine if JA began her attack on Travis trying to kill him and in self-defense HE killed HER. I wonder how that would play out in court. A small, petite dead little woman killed in lover's bedroom and he claims self-defense. Men are really getting a bad deal, as that whole defense would be an uphill battle and many would call BS. That goes into our mindset that men can't be abused, attacked, and victimized and they aren't permitted to protect themselves (they only get physical if they're on the offense).
It's a complex issue and this might not be the place to discuss it but I thought it was worth a (lengthy) mention.