NY - Gov Spitzer tells staff he's linked to prostitution ring

[southcitymom]

If I suspend reality for a moment and put myself in Elliot's shoes, I can tell you this: I would neither ask nor allow my wife to stand by my side in front of the press. If I did it myself I'd face the fire myself. I find that as offensive as when some white politician has made a racial slur against black people and and holds a press conference surrounded by black people. It just rubs me the wrong way......

I get you on this point, loud and clear. But perhaps she truly wanted to be up there with him and wouldn't be stopped - we just don't know. I too - if I found myself in his shoes - would want to take my medicine solo.

...... I cannot overlook the blatant, intentional and repeated lawbreaking flaws of the highest executive authority in the state.

I don't think she's overlooking his flaws. I've read nothing to indicate she's in denial about his repeated law-breaking and that behavior being in direct comflict with everything he has tried to stand for. Whether or not she can live with this flaw will be directly affected by a lot of things, to include her overall experience with him as a person and husband. Again - that's not a perspective I'm privy to.

 

[southcitymom]

I think the problem I have with all this is how harshly Silda is being judged.
She did nothing wrong. She is the victim, as are her daughters. She probably hasn't even had a chance to digest what has happened to her.

I agree with you that she is probably just starting to wrap her head around all of it. Perhaps she was on automatic pilot - wanting to stand by her husband in a painful, dark hour, not yet fully in touch with how much pain it was also causing her.

I respect her, though, and think she will pull through this with grace.

 

[southcitymom]

Dr. Phil's wife, Robin, said that there would be no way in he## that she would stand next to, behind or near her husband had he done what Spitzer did. I'm with Robin. I wouldn't be there.

I honestly don't know how I would respond. My husband has been a terrific friend and partner to me and, were he involved in this type of betrayal, that still wouldn't erase the good stuff for me.

I guess each person would behave differently depending on a number of things.

I know if the roles were reversed, my hubby wouldn't stand by me on that stage. He thinks infidelity is darn near unforgiveable.

 

[Rino]

I think the problem I have with all this is how harshly Silda is being judged.
She did nothing wrong. She is the victim, as are her daughters. She probably hasn't even had a chance to digest what has happened to her.

To to me she put her husband before her daughters, something I think is fair to judge someone over. The message being she and the girls are last in line in that family when it comes to be treated with dignity. I put my kids before my husband, maybe you judge me to be wrong, I can handle that.

Even if she eventually forgives him I think he insults her by, as adnoid said, letting him hide behind her.

 

[csds703]

I honestly don't know how I would respond. My husband has been a terrific friend and partner to me and, were he involved in this type of betrayal, that still wouldn't erase the good stuff for me.

I guess each person would behave differently depending on a number of things.

I know if the roles were reversed, my hubby wouldn't stand by me on that stage. He thinks infidelity is darn near unforgiveable.

I do as well, and did walk out of my marriage because of it.
I also know that when you are standing in this woman's shoes with all these revelations being thrown at you, it is sometimes best to do nothing until you know what you want to do.

As a side note, my attorney told me to stay and keep my mouth shut and gather as much information as possible. We do not know what her advisors are telling her. In New York you have to have grounds for a divorce.

 

[IdahoMom]

Well this story will eventually die down and go away unfortunately I think she will milk it for what it's worth and keep her name in the limelight which will make people remember her. As far as a job in her future I think she will get all kinds of jobs..none that will make her mama proud. JMO

I think she'll milk her 15 minutes for all it's worth.

There are some discrepancies in her description of her life experiences on her myspace. Will the real "Ashley" please stand up? Here's a commentary about the discrepancies in her story...

http://www.webpronews.com/topnews/2008/03/14/who-is-the-real-ashley-dupre

 

[nanandjim]

I think that infidelity is the ultimate sign of disrespect. I really think that a man or a woman should have the courage to get out of his/her marriage before going out with someone else.

 

[Rino]

In New York you have to have grounds for a divorce.

She got them now

 

[csds703]

To to me she put her husband before her daughters, something I think is fair to judge someone over. The message being she and the girls are last in line in that family when it comes to be treated with dignity. I put my kids before my husband, maybe you judge me to be wrong, I can handle that.

Even if she eventually forgives him I think he insults her by, as adnoid said, letting him hide behind her.

You have no idea what is being said to those girls behind closed doors.
She may be trying to shield them as much as possible. She may feel by standing there she is setting an example to them to hold their heads high and go to school. She may be telling them that they have nothing to be embarassed about.
Just throwing some thoughts out there.
Remember, he is the creep. He probably shouldn't have asked her to be there, but if had had character, he wouldn't have gotten into that situation to begin with.

 

[csds703]

I don't think she'll have a problem there.

Ya think?????

 

[southcitymom]

I do as well, and did walk out of my marriage because of it.
I also know that when you are standing in this woman's shoes with all these revelations being thrown at you, it is sometimes best to do nothing until you know what you want to do.

As a side note, my attorney told me to stay and keep my mouth shut and gather as much information as possible. We do not know what her advisors are telling her. In New York you have to have grounds for a divorce.

I agree with this absolutely.

I also do not think her standing with him means she places his welfare before her and her daughter's welfare. That's only one of many things it could mean.

 

[Mygirlsadie]

The more I think about it..why in the world did she stand up there? It's not like she gave a speech or anything? Seriously what did she stand up there for? When I saw her up there the only thing that popped in my mind was ''oooh that's what the wife looks like? He cheated on HER with a prostitute? wow.." Silda is a smart cookie I have no doubt her future will be just fine!

 

[Rino]

You have no idea what is being said to those girls behind closed doors.
She may be trying to shield them as much as possible. She may feel by standing there she is setting an example to them to hold their heads high and go to school. She may be telling them that they have nothing to be embarassed about.
Just throwing some thoughts out there.
Remember, he is the creep. He probably shouldn't have asked her to be there, but if had had character, he wouldn't have gotten into that situation to begin with.

Of couse I don't, no one does. But she was by his side and not theirs for the world to see. That message may be stonger than any words. That is not shielding them, that is not holding your head up high unless you forgive him (which may be the case) Public humilation is embarassing, no matter how many well intentioned parents try to ease their childrens pain.

On the judging those who judge, she herself said "That would never be me. I'd be gone," Silda told friends. She was at ease judging Hillary.

 

[Mygirlsadie]

Did you see the pics the new york post put up of Ashley? She is way older than 22, either that or her way of life is catching up to her fast....

 

[Dryad]

I have experienced this in my marriage, and you really cannot say for sure what you will do when this happens to you. You are in such shock and denial at first, so numb that you cannot think clearly. It's a living nightmare. The first reaction is to want it all to go away, to disappear and have your life the way it used to be (or how you thought it was). Reality has NOT yet set in for this woman.

Also, remember this: You don't "unlove" someone in a day. The day before this broke, she loved her husband. Is she expected to suddenly "unlove" him overnight? I'm not defending his behavior in any way, but remember this is her husband of many years. It's so easy to judge when you don't have a lifetime together and all of the emotions that go along with it. She will need time to sort of this out and go through the necessary stages, before she can make any decision what to do.

And when you have 3 children involved, it only makes it more complicated and painful.

 

[Sally]

Of couse I don't, no one does. But she was by his side and not theirs for the world to see. That message may be stonger than any words. That is not shielding them, that is not holding your head up high unless you forgive him (which may be the case) Public humilation is embarassing, no matter how many well intentioned parents try to ease their childrens pain.

On the judging those who judge, she herself said "That would never be me. I'd be gone," Silda told friends. She was at ease judging Hillary.

I agree Rino. By standing up there beside him, she took on a portion of that public humiliation as if it were her responsibility. If she stays in the marriage or leaves that is her personal choice, and not for me to judge either way. But twice she stood with him publicly; first, when the news broke and he apologized, and again when he resigned; she was there for both. These were public displays and therefore, I feel are open for judgement.

 

[Masterj]

Did you see the pics the new york post put up of Ashley? She is way older than 22, either that or her way of life is catching up to her fast....

I don't believe for a second she is 22. I am guessing more like 28-33 range.

 

[csds703]

I agree Rino. By standing up there beside him, she took on a portion of that public humiliation as if it were her responsibility. If she stays in the marriage or leaves that is her personal choice, and not for me to judge either way. But twice she stood with him publicly; first, when the news broke and he apologized, and again when he resigned; she was there for both. These were public displays and therefore, I feel are open for judgement.

Well, if you feel the need to judge, you should at least know what she was thinking when she made the decision to stand up there.
As I've said many times, it's very easy to make a judgement about what you think you would do, but until you are actually faced with the situation, you really don't know.

 

[Mygirlsadie]

You are right on too.. Take it from someone who has been there. You have NO IDEA how different it is once you are in the situation.

Well, if you feel the need to judge, you should at least know what she was thinking when she made the decision to stand up there.
As I've said many times, it's very easy to make a judgement about what you think you would do, but until you are actually faced with the situation, you really don't know.

 

[Rum Tum Tugger]

If she poses nude in Penthouse or Hustler, I think that she is going to have a problem getting a "real" job if she ever wants one. Is this thinking out of date?? :waitasec:

I doubt Miss Ashley will be looking for what the rest of us consider "a real job" anytime soon.

On one of the FOX News shows this afternoon - the anchor revealed that Larry Flynt of Hustler magazine has just offered Ashley "one million dollars" to pose nude in his (sleazy) magazine. No word yet as to whether or not the offer has been accepted.

Well - we knew the offers were coming. I just didn't realize the offer would be SO huge!

Simply Unreal where this country places it's values!!

An attractive 22 yr. old prostitute spends a couple of hours "servicing" a high profile john - "illegally" earns $4300. for her efforts - her "my space" page gets 5000 hits from the revelation - her booty song soars racking up huge cash profits - and then .. she is offered $1,000,000.00 to pose nude in a magazine. Go figure! :waitasec:

The FOX poll indicated that 2/3rd's (67%) of the respondents thought this prostitute should milk this situation for all it's worth.

Other news on FOX .. Ashley (Kristin) apparently moved out of her expensive NY apt. today after the hullaballou the other building residents raised regarding all the "media people, camera crews & press vehicles" all around the building hampering traffic & all the residents.


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