hannahsnana
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I totally agree with the above statement.
One thing that needs to be brought out is the step-family issue. For 10 years, I raised someone else's boys. I thought of them as my own. They called me "mom" as all was well for a long time. Then, they became teens and started breaking the law with drugs and other things. I put my foot down. Their dad did not. I went from "mom" to "the b----". Their hatred for me was scary, especially the youngest one who wrote a poem that included me in it on his my space that lied about me and frightened me. Their dad said "oh all kids do that, just ignore it. They don't mean it".
Needless to say, the marriage didn't last and the kids I raised for ten years do not even acknowledge my existence. And they all have records now. (I have two sons who have not followed the same lifestyle in the least!)
The term "blended family" is a joke. Sure, some of them "blend" but for the most part, they are step-families and the kids suffer. I thought ours was "blended" until the kids got into high school, then the truth came out.
Kimster, I understand what you are saying. With some of these kids, the pathology is there before the stepparent ever came on the scene. And it will still be there when/if the stepparent is gone.