SIDEBAR #17- Arias/Alexander forum

[Zuri]

Since I have monopolized the entire thread today, it is question time.
Favorite Shampoo:
Favorite Perfume:
Favorite Soap Scent:

 

[daisymae]

Daisy, my FF, what is your favorite soap?

Soap? LOL I'm not much of a frilly gal! Scents bother my nose, but I do like french soaps in the drawers. Next question.

 

[Zuri]

More Questions:
Favorite non Alcoholic Drink:
Charity you would support if you do or could
Favorite Nightly News Anchor

 

[daisymae]

More Questions:
Favorite non Alcoholic Drink:
Charity you would support if you do or could
Favorite Nightly News Anchor

sweet tea
children related charities
Anderson

 

[Zuri]

Favorite Baby Name:
Favorite comfy clothes:
Favorite thing to do on a Sunday morning:

 

[daisymae]

Bernina - help me! I'm being bombarded with questions!:floorlaugh:

 

[Bernina]

There are a lot of families out there today dealing with this. I'd say it's pretty hard to find a family today that does not have some family member or an extended family member who has a drug problem to some degree or another. It is a big problem in this country. Are there support groups for family members? I know they have the programs for alcohol addiction but do they have them for drug addiction as well?

Usually every "program" has support groups for the family, and Narcotics Anonymous (NA) has a similar support group like AA offers family members (Alanon). There's many "On Line" support groups too. It's sometimes just hard to find a support group where you can relate to their approach. There's many that go hand and hand with 12 step programs and "Tough Love" based ideologies. Some take on a religious theme (there's tons of Christian based rehab/treatment programs).
I went through quite a few support groups with my 1st ex. My biggest issue was family members that stayed on the "pity pot" or think that if they believe a specific way, things will change.
The one thing that has kept me sane is "You can't change someone, only they can change themselves and then only FOR themselves".
Another good one was "Jesus can save your soul, but sobriety will save your life".
When I got sober,(alcohol, crank, pot, LSD, and just about everything EXCEPT heroin) I just said "today it's over". The End. No programs, no rehab, no sponsor, just life's experiences telling me "hey, dumb a$$, grow up or you're going to die." I have to actually figure how long it's been because it's a non-issue....but it will be 24 years this month. I'm not a recovering addict or alcoholic, I won't be defined by those labels. I just have a broad rage of life experiences! And I was one of those functional abusers who held down one and 2 jobs at a time.
I believe that if I have the will and put forth the effort, I can do anything. The ultimate power in my life comes down to me. I create my own change.
And I REALLY appreciate un-clouded reality, no matter how much it hurts at times. It just reminds me I'm alive.
This is getting long winded......
My biggest problem was if I could do it, and for me it was pretty easy even with 12 years of it, why couldn't either of my ex's or my daughter? Maybe because mine was to self medicate, IDK.(Here I do need to add that neither of my kids were ever exposed to alcohol or drug use by me, that just wasn't cool by any standards)

 

[daisymae]

Favorite Baby Name:
Favorite comfy clothes:
Favorite thing to do on a Sunday morning:

Lilly
shorts and tees
lay around and watch Lifetime movies

 

[Zuri]

Question: Language you would like to learn:
Number of true friends you have, that have your back and visca versa?

 

[Bernina]

Bernina - help me! I'm being bombarded with questions!:floorlaugh:

See how you kids are? I go write a response and you go all "20 questions" on me! :floorlaugh:

 

[Zuri]

Bernini, can you bottle the " Eau du Manure" for me?

 

[daisymae]

Question: Language you would like to learn:
Number of true friends you have, that have your back and visca versa?

not interested in another language
I'd say 2 friends

Zuri - thank your lucky stars you have family and friends. I mean it.

 

[daisymae]

See how you kids are? I go write a response and you go all "20 questions" on me!

:floorlaugh::floorlaugh:

 

[Bernina]

:floorlaugh:
You 2 are killin' me!

 

[Zuri]

Bernina - help me! I'm being bombarded with questions!:floorlaugh:

not interested in another language
I'd say 2 friends

Zuri - thank your lucky stars you have family and friends. I mean it.

Be careful what you wish for. You are my friends now. I am truly blessed with the family unit I have. My virtual friends have become friends "in my head" so that counts too.

 

[Zuri]

Bernina, my IPad autocorrects your name to a really great horse name btw.

 

[daisymae]

:floorlaugh:
You 2 are killin' me!

You always crack me up! :floorlaugh:

 

[Zuri]

Has anyone ever visited a National Park, where, and what was it like?

 

[daisymae]

Has anyone ever visited a National Park, where, and what was it like?

seems I'm the only one playing and I don't wanna play all by myself :floorlaugh:

 

[Zuri]

I need to get out more. The travel DVDS are cutting it. My MIL invited us on a River Cruise down the Rhine next year. Lovely invitation until I saw how long it was and it would be on a boat with her for 16 days. Oh hell no. Then I find out we have to pay for it. Hell no to that to.