SIDEBAR #34 - Arias/Alexander forum

[YESorNO]

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"voluminous"

why does word sound so offensive now? :thinking:

 

[YESorNO]

Yep, I picked them out, 2 pairs, one for just regular whatever seeing and another for reading.I did NOT spend 2 hours picking them out!

Function before fashion, and the only "people" I have to impress are the critters!

If this had happened 30 or so years ago, I would have been officially declared a "dork". I LIKE AVIATOR GLASSES!!!! And the gal at the eye doc said, "oh, they're too big", like :gaah:!!!!! So I picked 2 that were 1: different than each other, and 2: still make me look like a raccoon.
Got the replacement insurance cause I just know they're going to get know knocked off and/or chewed on.

Why didn't you buy the progressive lenses- then you would need only one pair of glasses?

They have no lines and just look like regular glasses. I have them- trifocals.

Progressive Lenses Replace Bifocals for Age-Defying Appearance

http://www.allaboutvision.com/lenses/progressives.htm

 

[YESorNO]

It's the anniversary of JFK's assassination today:

For those of you who don't know JFK served as the 35th president of the United States from 1961 until his assassination in 1963. He is best known for his firm handling of the Cuban Missle Crisis of 1962 and continually ranks highly in public:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6JfcwHzI-4
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John F. Kennedy Tribute - I'll Be Seeing You

[video=youtube;S9vJ5oLnqOY]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9vJ5oLnqOY[/video]

 

[Love Never Fails]

I know it's the internet and all and anonymity and safety and all of that BUT I'm just putting it out there that I'm pretty much 1000% sure there are posters on here who would love to send you books (and other little care package stuff we can share ) during you convalescence Spycraft if you'd like to share an address privately or something. If not, I completely understand but I'm just putting it out there anyway. We could be a little collective amazon.com but without the paying part. I know I probably have at least 10 books or more that would be happy to find new homes and other little goodies I'd be happy to send your way. You could let me know privately as well if you have an address you'd be comfortable sharing.

PS I say this because during the Arias trial I did share my address wtih many posters who sent lots of things for the Alexanders which I hand carried to them in court (and many nice things for me too). So I'm more liberal than most with the address thing but it proved to be totally safe and ok for me.

I agree and I am ready too.

 

[Love Never Fails]

KCL, I'm pretty much overcome with emotion right now. What a kind, generous, thoughtful offer! Admittedly it's difficult being away from where I consider my home. I resigned my teaching position and moved here to provide full time care to my parents whose greatest hope in their nineties was to remain in their own home. Unfortunately, Mom developed Alzheimer's and by the time I had made the permanent move here she was in need of 24/7 care and my dad's health had deteriorated from neglect as he worried and tried his best to care for mom. Leaving my home of 20 years, my colleagues, my students, my friends, my place of safety and comfort was difficult, but the actual decision to move was not a difficult one. It was an honor, albeit the most challenging honor, to take care of mom and dad and be able to help them so that they could celebrate a few more Christmases, birthdays, and Thanksgivings.

Anyone who has been a caregiver knows that it is a full time job, and especially living in a town where all my friends were in their 90's like my parents, respite care was nonexistent. I lost touch with so many people, had to turn down invitations, travels, even simple weekend trips because it was not possible to leave my mother alone for 15 minutes, much less a day! I was in my early 50's, my friends from home were enjoying their grandchildren, traveling, moving on in their lives. With more time on their hands it became a nuisance, I believe, to try to accommodate me into any plans because I had none. I was definitely the non-fun friend!

I just turned 60 on the 4th and realized just how alone I still feel over here and with my folks gone, and most of my other friends in their nineties, it's a sobering thought. Ah well, enough of what surely sounds like a pity party for one! I will message you with my address, but I expect nothing from you! I offer my address more than willingly and with great ease and trust because I followed the forums (as a non member) during the trial and read how much you did for the Alexanders and how much you shared of your time and life to help them in so many ways. Thank you again. Your words of kindness touched me greatly and were appreciated.!

Spycraft,
Thank you for what you did for your parents! My own sister had Alzheimer's and then passed from a stroke last May. I know how grueling it is and yet what an honor when you love them. So it would be an honor for us to share what we can for you. KCL knows me and I can PM her and if she prefers, I can send things to her for you. But hey, I am an Amazon prime member so if you have ideas of what you need don't be shy. Amazon ships a lot of things for free. Friendships online aren't the same as those who are close to you, granted, but I have found the sleuthers really care about one another. I am pleased you let us know about your need. God bless you.

 

[Love Never Fails]

Jodi Arias' expert: 'You couldn't miss' on computer

http://www.azcentral.com/story/news...odi-arias-expert-miss-🤬🤬🤬🤬-computer/19369563/
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Sex expert in Jodi Arias trial heats up courtroom, credibility under scrutiny

http://www.examiner.com/article/sex...ts-up-the-courtroom-credibility-called-into-q
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Gold Patrol Update: Jodi's XXXpert
- file deletion motion and witness testimony

[video=youtube;IHnGB9_hL_o]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHnGB9_hL_o&list=UUZZzyG2TbFN1gQz4jf78kRg[/video]

I like what Jeff Gold had to say. Gives us some clarity.

 

[katiecoolady]

KCL, I'm pretty much overcome with emotion right now. What a kind, generous, thoughtful offer! Admittedly it's difficult being away from where I consider my home. I resigned my teaching position and moved here to provide full time care to my parents whose greatest hope in their nineties was to remain in their own home. Unfortunately, Mom developed Alzheimer's and by the time I had made the permanent move here she was in need of 24/7 care and my dad's health had deteriorated from neglect as he worried and tried his best to care for mom. Leaving my home of 20 years, my colleagues, my students, my friends, my place of safety and comfort was difficult, but the actual decision to move was not a difficult one. It was an honor, albeit the most challenging honor, to take care of mom and dad and be able to help them so that they could celebrate a few more Christmases, birthdays, and Thanksgivings.

Anyone who has been a caregiver knows that it is a full time job, and especially living in a town where all my friends were in their 90's like my parents, respite care was nonexistent. I lost touch with so many people, had to turn down invitations, travels, even simple weekend trips because it was not possible to leave my mother alone for 15 minutes, much less a day! I was in my early 50's, my friends from home were enjoying their grandchildren, traveling, moving on in their lives. With more time on their hands it became a nuisance, I believe, to try to accommodate me into any plans because I had none. I was definitely the non-fun friend!

I just turned 60 on the 4th and realized just how alone I still feel over here and with my folks gone, and most of my other friends in their nineties, it's a sobering thought. Ah well, enough of what surely sounds like a pity party for one! I will message you with my address, but I expect nothing from you! I offer my address more than willingly and with great ease and trust because I followed the forums (as a non member) during the trial and read how much you did for the Alexanders and how much you shared of your time and life to help them in so many ways. Thank you again. Your words of kindness touched me greatly and were appreciated.!

I read your note on my phone last night and was too lazy to type from bed but then was restless and got up and pulled off about 12 books from my bookshelf. It's funny how life is sometimes because I have been embroiled in a decluttering process in my home and started this week in my bedroom. I looked at that bookshelf and thought "I need to unload a lot of those books" but was thinking of the best place for them to go. Some are even signed by some "celebrities" you might know (you definitely will actually). I have my pile started and it will be complete by tomorrow.

We are all in this big WEB(sleuths) for a reason. Let this web support you. And help me declutter! Win/win I'll reply to your pm when I wade through some stuff and deal with my dead battery.

 

[katiecoolady]

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"voluminous"

why does word sound so offensive now? :thinking:

That tickled my funny bone! :lol:

 

[grammieto5]

Hey Everyone, Good morning I have put Hindsight2020's photo with Travis' verse in a frame. I took a picture of it and would like to show you all how it looks. So I'm thinking I need to go to settings, choose Edit Signature, then Option two-upload image from your computer. Is this correct? Thanks

 

[Niner]

Thank you all for your well wishes about Emma. She was a good kitty - I'll post one more picture of her (I promise! LOL!)

all quotes snipped by me...

I am reaching out to anyone who could give me some great reading suggestions. I must have books. If I am to survive this confinement, I must have books! I loved Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn, Michael Connelly books, Jodi Picoult. Any suggestions would be appreciated! I don’t even have a day to go library “shopping” so Amazon it is. (I have Amazon all queued up, ready to accept an overburdened credit card.)

Here's a link to our own Book club here at WS:
http://www.websleuths.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?66-Websleuths-Book-Club

I haven't been there lately, but I shared a LOT of books there! A list of authors I liked reading:
Karin Slaughter
Kathy Reichs (she's married to a Latvian!!)
Patricia Cornwell

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So sorry for both you and Emma. I almost never read the Sidebar, so I don't know the backstory... but at least Emma came home despite being in such rough shape, so she must have really wanted to be with you.

A couple of years ago I had to put down the cat I'd had for about 15 years, then a few months later had to put down the "replacement kitten," who was fine for a couple of months, but then got so sick over the course of the next month, despite everything the vet and I tried to do, that finally we just had to let the poor little guy go. It felt like a different kind of kick in the gut than when I put down the old cat, but both were awful and involved a lot of tears. We love them as much as possible, then help them "cross the rainbow bridge" as gently as we can. It can be really hard to take comfort in that, but I think it is something that in the long run is helpful to remember. (I now have two very robust cats, one of whom is snoring under my chair and the other one is cutting off the circulation in my lap.)

Best wishes.

Thank you T-4-2! My Huz and I were planning on moving to Latvia (I'm a Latvian!!), so I needed to get shots for my two cats; unfortunately, the shot Emma got caused a cancer that was terminal! I had NEVER heard that cats can get cancer from vaccinations - and my Dad was a veterinarian!! ?? Anyway - it really grew fast - I'd say 6 months - and yesterday there was a BIG hole in her leg and she wasn't eating anymore... so my Huz let her out of her misery... she crossed the Rainbow Bridge!

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Niner I am so sorry. your puppy is safe now and romping in fields..:grouphug:

she's a kitty!! :wave:

It's the anniversary of JFK's assassination today:

For those of you who don't know JFK served as the 35th president of the United States from 1961 until his assassination in 1963. He is best known for his firm handling of the Cuban Missle Crisis of 1962 and continually ranks highly in public:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6JfcwHzI-4
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John F. Kennedy Tribute - I'll Be Seeing You

[video=youtube;S9vJ5oLnqOY]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9vJ5oLnqOY[/video]

Wow! I forgot - but I do know WHERE I was at that moment!! Too bad JFK, Jr. had to die - he would have been a good President!

And I see a few :newbie: s here! :welcome6:

Okay - off to read some other threads! Take care everyone!!

:seeya: Oh it's RAINING here!!!!

 

[Bernina]

My baby girl, Emma. :angel: Flying thru the air!

How cool! My animal buddies always leave a bigger hole in my heart than human beings do, it's got to be the unconditional love......Take it slow, Niner!:grouphug:

 

[Bernina]

Why didn't you buy the progressive lenses- then you would need only one pair of glasses?

They have no lines and just look like regular glasses. I have them- trifocals.

Progressive Lenses Replace Bifocals for Age-Defying Appearance

http://www.allaboutvision.com/lenses/progressives.htm

LOL! Probably because I'm frugal and new to the whole "4 Eye" community! The exam was WAY cool, but :gaah:, too many choices! The total for everything was $160: Got a veteran's discount because Don paid for them, got both frames for $8 each cause they were clearing out last year's frames, usually $150.............and by then, my eyes were dilated and I was "just get me outta here!"

I'll get it worked out in the next year, trial and error. It'll be really great to see properly again! When I look at Zuri from a distance, I see 2 white spots on her forehead instead of one........like how whacked is that? I really thought it was an ongoing side effect of my meds............but hey! It's gonna be FIXED!!!! YAY!

 

[Nore]

It's the anniversary of JFK's assassination today:

For those of you who don't know JFK served as the 35th president of the United States from 1961 until his assassination in 1963. He is best known for his firm handling of the Cuban Missle Crisis of 1962 and continually ranks highly in public:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6JfcwHzI-4
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John F. Kennedy Tribute - I'll Be Seeing You

[video=youtube;S9vJ5oLnqOY]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9vJ5oLnqOY[/video]

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Oh I remember! I was washing my kitchen floor. Walter Cronkite came on......I just dropped the mop and cried. I ran across the street to my friend , we both cried. Such a fine President. We visited his grave at Arlington, along with his babies graves..:tears:

 

[Kensie]

I was at school when I heard about the assassination. I was living in NM at the time.

The killers complexion is looking awful, almost has a gray tint to it.

 

[Kensie]

LOL! Probably because I'm frugal and new to the whole "4 Eye" community! The exam was WAY cool, but :gaah:, too many choices! The total for everything was $160: Got a veteran's discount because Don paid for them, got both frames for $8 each cause they were clearing out last year's frames, usually $150.............and by then, my eyes were dilated and I was "just get me outta here!"

I'll get it worked out in the next year, trial and error. It'll be really great to see properly again! When I look at Zuri from a distance, I see 2 white spots on her forehead instead of one........like how whacked is that? I really thought it was an ongoing side effect of my meds............but hey! It's gonna be FIXED!!!! YAY!

You will get used to the glasses. I was literally born with glasses, have had them my whole life. I tried contacts but preferred the old four eyes. I guess I hide behind my glasses. Since I have had them my whole life, 3 eye surgeries as kid, the glasses are a part of me.

 

[YESorNO]

OK everyone. This video was on the JM website and I thought it was a good video for people to watch if they are feeling depressed/worthless/can't go on/different, etc. (note: please don't watch if you get squeamish about people who are "different" in appearance).

My turning point in my life and how I think about my life now, came when I met a man who, because of MD, can only move his head and one finger. He lives his whole life in a wheelchair. He had a lot to overcome because of his disability and with the help of a loving family/friends and many agencies that are provided from the state/gov't, etc., he is a practicing lawyer. But, ultimately, he was the one who picked himself up and pushed himself to have a successful life. I know he was depressed at times, just like anyone else, but he didn't let this stop him from being a person who could overcome his disabilities and be a happy person.

He accepted what life gave him, but not in a way that stopped him from getting what he wanted. He pursued all that he could to achieve his goals; he did not bemoan his life- he has what I call the "just-do-it" attitude- if you can do it, I can do it. He counts himself as a lucky person. He doesn't see what he doesn't have, but all that he does have and he is grateful. His attitude is what makes his story/life so important- Attitude. Again, he doesn't bemoan his life- he just lives it and he doesn't wallow in a pity-party for himself. Nothing will help you if you don't go out and get the help you need; that help will not come to you.

I know, I know- I may sound like I don't know what it is to be depressed (and I spoke about this before)- that I don't understand your type of depression, but I do. I was hospitalized many years ago for depression, have taken meds, talked to therapists, etc. I know the deep, black hole of depression- the feeling that you are dead already, and all it entails, but this man helped me the most because I realized all that I had. I stopped looking at all that I don't have/what could have been, etc. and starting being grateful for all that I had in my life right now. I have reached acceptance, inner happiness, whatever you want to call it, and, now, peace in my life- not seeing life with rose-colored glasses, mind you, but accepting the realities of life and still being happy. I am truly a happy old fart - it's all I can wish/hope for, IMO. Life is not easy, but you can make it easier on yourself, if you want, IMO.

Anyway, I ramble again, maybe this video will make some see what you can be grateful for in your life, that you can be happy- to take the steps to ensure that you climb out of your depression and see that your life is worth something- to stop thinking that someone else will save you. You are the only one who can save you. Attitude- go and do it- nothing is stopping you, but yourself. Love :heartbeat: yourself enough to go out and seek whatever you need to live your life. As I have always said, YOU are important.

The video:

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=235928026555591


BTW: TA met Nick Vujicic according to his blog: (maybe Nick was the turning point in his life, just like my man in a wheelchair was in mine). TA says it all much better than me.

http://travisalexander.blogspot.com/2008/05/stepping-stones-and-stumbling-blocks.html

Rambling over :blushing:

:blah::blah::blah:

All :moo:

 

[katiecoolady]

that guy is so incredibly inspiring

 

[zoey]

OK everyone. This video was on the JM website and I thought it was a good video for people to watch if they are feeling depressed/worthless/can't go on/different, etc. (note: please don't watch if you get squeamish about people who are "different" in appearance).

My turning point in my life and how I think about my life now, came when I met a man who, because of MD, can only move his head and one finger. He lives his whole life in a wheelchair. He had a lot to overcome because of his disability and with the help of a loving family/friends and many agencies that are provided from the state/gov't, etc., he is a practicing lawyer. But, ultimately, he was the one who picked himself up and pushed himself to have a successful life. I know he was depressed at times, just like anyone else, but he didn't let this stop him from being a person who could overcome his disabilities and be a happy person.

He accepted what life gave him, but not in a way that stopped him from getting what he wanted. He pursued all that he could to achieve his goals; he did not bemoan his life- he has what I call the "just-do-it" attitude- if you can do it, I can do it. He counts himself as a lucky person. He doesn't see what he doesn't have, but all that he does have and he is grateful. His attitude is what makes his story/life so important- Attitude. Again, he doesn't bemoan his life- he just lives it and he doesn't wallow in a pity-party for himself. Nothing will help you if you don't go out and get the help you need; that help will not come to you.

I know, I know- I may sound like I don't know what it is to be depressed (and I spoke about this before)- that I don't understand your type of depression, but I do. I was hospitalized many years ago for depression, have taken meds, talked to therapists, etc. I know the deep, black hole of depression- the feeling that you are dead already, and all it entails, but this man helped me the most because I realized all that I had. I stopped looking at all that I don't have/what could have been, etc. and starting being grateful for all that I had in my life right now. I have reached acceptance, inner happiness, whatever you want to call it, and, now, peace in my life- not seeing life with rose-colored glasses, mind you, but accepting the realities of life and still being happy. I am truly a happy old fart - it's all I can wish/hope for, IMO. Life is not easy, but you can make it easier on yourself, if you want, IMO.

Anyway, I ramble again, maybe this video will make some see what you can be grateful for in your life, that you can be happy- to take the steps to ensure that you climb out of your depression and see that your life is worth something- to stop thinking that someone else will save you. You are the only one who can save you. Attitude- go and do it- nothing is stopping you, but yourself. Love :heartbeat: yourself enough to go out and seek whatever you need to live your life. As I have always said, YOU are important.

The video:

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=235928026555591


BTW: TA met Nick Vujicic according to his blog: (maybe Nick was the turning point in his life, just like my man in a wheelchair was in mine). TA says it all much better than me.

http://travisalexander.blogspot.com/2008/05/stepping-stones-and-stumbling-blocks.html

Rambling over :blushing:

:blah::blah::blah:

All :moo:

Perhaps you should talk with my dh?--again at sisters fine when I left basket case now.

 

[Bernina]

Thought this was kinda funny.........the loss of CMJA to her posse when she's no longer around:

 

[Bernina]

The video:

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=235928026555591

*Respectfully snipped*

Y/N, you write and post some of the coolest stuff, that video was just what I needed today!