Has anyone ever wanted to smack a grown child of yours right upside their head?!
Our DD decided she would come over and have an 'intervention' with us over spending money!!!! After all, we are on a 'fixed income'!
She thinks we should NOT be spending money since we are on SS now. She went on and on about how we a month ago we bought a new top of the line Ford Escape, pulled the carpets up in the bedrooms and laid that new fancy flooring, bought a new French Door fridge just yesterday, and NOW we are talking about buying that expensive Yorkie dog!! She was thinking we should cut up our credit cards...I was seeing RED.
Well DH looked at her and let her have it...how he had worked 44 years with the same company and has a damn good pension coming in, how we had planned on retirement and made plans for doing what we are doing (minus the dog buying). That she did not have a clue how much or how little money we had. He pointed out that we did not owe on anything, house been paid off for 7 years now, fridge was over 20 years old and it was none of her damn business what we did or didn't do! Plus, where was it a law that we would leave any money behind when we died. She was totally in shock when he finished with her LOL. Her Dad has never 'gone off' on her before, I was the 'heavy'.
I'm still ticked off at her and the other kids thinking we have gone on a big buying binge we would be in the poor house soon. KIDS!! they are worse when the grow up!
And this too shall pass.....
:jawdrop: How dare you all spend any of her inheritance on anything for your home!
We all know Mr. Coffeejunkie worked 44 years of his life to make a nice little nest egg for your kids :giggle: And here you go buying a new fridge that was only 20 years old! And then you had the nerve to replace old carpet? I do hope you did as she requested and cut up your credit cards. :giggle: What is wrong with our adult children these days? They just ASSUME they are entitled to everything! SMH
Congrats, Coffee to you and your DH!!!! IMO you did exactly what you had to do. I'd so much appreciate if my parents had the same attitude. They too, have been working so hard all their lives and today I would say the live comfotably but still modestly. I constantly try to encourage them to be generous with themselves and not to think about what they would leave for us (4 children). But I hardly succeed.
So I decided that whenever I hear a wish (not easy for them to express a wish) or when I observe they could make good use of this or that, I'll offer it to them.
I can't help but doing all I can to take good care of them, make them happy, bring surprises as I feel so much gratitude for being alive thanks to them.
Enjoy your life, Coffee & DH and encourage your children to enjoy THEIR lives.

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Susza You so sweet! You have a very good heart to think about your parents in such a caring way. We should all be so lucky.
Dmacky, we must plan a road trip together

(if my kids will let me hahaha)...
Well tell your daughter that I will be pitching in on the gas money, then maybe she'll let you go :wink:
That really would be fun. I must admit I do have a phobia of bridges these days. I have never been real fond of them, even as a child I remember closing my eyes as we drove over one. As a teen and
younger adult, I didn't love them...but I traveled to Indiana quite frequently. I always took my girls to Santa Claus Land (now called) Holiday World every summer, to Hubers every Oct. to get pumpkins and a hayride. And then again every December.
For at least 10 years in a row I would take a week of my vacation the first week of every November and do ALL my Christmas shopping at the Green Tree and Riverside Malls. There were other stores right there close such as K mart, Value city and I can't remember the name of the big Drugstore (?) there by Value City, but they had very nice things. Leather wallets etc.... I would leave at 8 am. and shop until they closed. BUT ~ I always finished it all up in one day! I had all the stores to myself as most people were working. I hate crowds when I shop...I hate to even shop now.
We would go to Caesars Casino (now called Horseshoe Southern Indiana) several times a year. So, although I was always leery of bridges, I still traveled over them with no problem. BUT NOT ANYMORE...
My sister used to live in Minnesota years ago before they moved back here to Kentucky. They remained close to a couple that used to live next door to them. They still visit each other twice a year. The other couple comes here in the winter, and my sister and BIL go there in the summer. In 2007 the other couple's husband picked them up at the airport, and they had just crossed over the bridge before it collapsed. :scared: Missed it by one minute!!
I have not been on a bridge since.