SIDEBAR #56 - Travis Alexander forum

[Zuri]

1980 - Actor Steve McQueen dies at age 50 . I had the hots for him. I remember watching Bullet with my mother. It was the same theater we'd walk to on Saturday afternoons. We each had a quater. It cost a dime to get in, then you decided if you wanted a coke and popcorn or pickle and candy. If you found any pennies nickels or dimes during the week you bought the hotdog that rolled around on metal bars.


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I watched "Blue Bloods" on Friday night starring Tom Selleck and Danny Wahlburg and it was about the theft of the car in "Bullet". The actors said it was the greatest car chase scene ever and they were enamoured with the 1958 Mustang. I hadn't remembered Steve McQueen died so young. Such a shame.

 

[Zuri]

CJ, steroids really mess with your body and brain. As I am slowly reducing my steroid dose, I am incredibly emotionally labile. Unfortunately, you just can't stop prednisone all at once and have to taper slowly.

I hope your trip to your cabin will help. Sometimes all you need is a change of scenery to make things right in your world. So my bag is packed and I will be ready whenever you swing by to pick me up. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

I watched "Blue Bloods" on Friday night starring Tom Selleck and Danny Wahlburg and it was about the theft of the car in "Bullet". The actors said it was the greatest car chase scene ever and they were enamoured with the 1958 Mustang. I hadn't remembered Steve McQueen died so young. Such a shame.

There is another movie about a Steve McQueen car. It has Eddie Murphy, Matthew Broderick Ben Stiller, Alan Alda, and others. The 275 GTB/4, that was Steve McQueen's, that he bought when he was making Bullitt, was bought by the bad guy has the car parts cast in gold and sitting in his front room in plain sight.


How are you today? Is the weather still nice?

 

[Niner]

ood morning! Oops, now it's the afternoon :wave:

Watching football, naturally!

I LOVED Steve McQueen!! :luv:

A pickle at the movies?? Never went to a theatre that sold pickles??!! Popcorn, candy and hotdogs, yes - but no pickles!

Good Morning SB Friends

I think know what is/was wrong with me...came down off a high dose of steroids (for my back) and I do think I went into a slight depression coming down off them. Feeling slightly better and my DH is taking me to our cabin in the mountains tomorrow, just for a few days He thinks that will help bring me back to my old self. Let's hope so. We are taking Squeaker with us, so that should be interesting...he loves riding in a car, so that's a plus and we will make plenty of pit stops for him. He should do ok. I hope! He is 5 months old now and weighs 4 lbs. Vet is very happy with his growth rate and wants him between 4 1/2 and 5 lbs for his final weight. He will stop growing when he is 6-8 months old.

Hope everyone enjoys their day and you have plenty of laughter and sunshine in your life! :loveyou:

Have a GREAT time - and get yourself back together again!! :loveyou: and a :hug:

I was so tired by the time I got home. I was out of the house at about 11:30 and back home by 4:30- too long for this old lady.

I received one of those letters from my internet provider and I'm too high again on the BW, so I have to cool it for a while 'til it goes down.

1st paragraph - yeah, that would be a looonnnggg day for me too!!
and 2nd parag. - BOOOOO!!!!!! And it's only the beginning of November! :scared:

How are you today? Is the weather still nice?

Don't know if that was a generic question or ?? but we are doing okay here! and RAIN, RAIN, RAIN!! Here! I know all you back in the east are saying - go away rain, but we REALLY need it here, and besides, I don't have to water my plants! :skip: And I like the rain!!

Just got off of Skype with my sisters and brother! Had a nice hour long conversation! We will be doing it again Thanksgiving!

Okay - off to watch some football! My Niners aren't doing so good so far this year... we will be having a new quarterback today, so we'll see how that goes!

Later! :seeya:

and will "quick" post and than edit to add a picture for you all! And this picture makes sense to me, as English is my third language!

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

1960 - John Kennedy (Sen-D-Mass) beats VP Richard Nixon (R) for 35th US president.


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[coffeejunkie]

CJ, steroids really mess with your body and brain. As I am slowly reducing my steroid dose, I am incredibly emotionally labile. Unfortunately, you just can't stop prednisone all at once and have to taper slowly.

I hope your trip to your cabin will help. Sometimes all you need is a change of scenery to make things right in your world. So my bag is packed and I will be ready whenever you swing by to pick me up. Hope you feel better soon.

I did taper off slowly...and it still threw me for a loop

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

1954 - Armistice Day becomes Veteran’s Day November 7th, 1954 : It was made known this day in 1954 that the upcoming holiday normally celebrated on November 11th would be Veteran’s Day. This used to be called Armistice Day, in order to celebrate the end of World War I. However, since another major world war had passed, it seemed time to call Armistice Day by the new name-Veteran’s day, as mentioned already. This first V-day celebration scheduled was meant to honor vets from the Civil War, WWI and WWII, and the Korean conflict.


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[ILikeToBendPages]

1967 - Nilsson's'"Everybody's Talkin'" makes the charts. Angelina Jolie's father, Jon Voight, plays Joe Buck in Midnight Cowboy. In Midnight Cowboy the song Everybody's Talking is playing when Ratso beats on the car hood and says I'm walking here. In Forrest Gump Everybody's Talking is playing when Forest and Lt. Dan are crossing the street, and Lt. Dan beats on the car and says I'm walking here as a tribute to Midnight Cowboy.




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[GigiG]

Snipped by me:

1. Your shoes are the first thing people subconsciously notice about you. Wear nice shoes.


I love some of these recommendations, but this first one has me flummoxed.

I used to be a high-heel person and bona fide shoe junkie, but now I choose my shoes for comfort and functionality. I can only imagine the the age group for this survey was fairly young, and not that savvy about the needs and requirements of different people.

NPR did an interesting story on this:
http://www.npr.org/2015/11/03/453209136/if-the-shoe-fits-the-rise-of-the-stylish-comfort-shoe

It might be just me, but shoes are the LAST thing I look at when I meet a person. I know there was the caveat of "subconsciously." but still, I don't believe I've ever looked at another person's footwear and -- consciously or subconsciously -- judged them on that...

 

[GigiG]

sad :: not too far from where my daughter lives:


http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/authorities-killed-hurt-fiery-maryland-crash-35062461

ETA

OMG, just noticed that on this footage, it appears that there is the body of a small victim on the left corner of the screen. this is heartbreaking...

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

Snipped by me:

1. Your shoes are the first thing people subconsciously notice about you. Wear nice shoes.


I love some of these recommendations, but this first one has me flummoxed.

I used to be a high-heel person and bona fide shoe junkie, but now I choose my shoes for comfort and functionality. I can only imagine the the age group for this survey was fairly young, and not that savvy about the needs and requirements of different people.

NPR did an interesting story on this:
http://www.npr.org/2015/11/03/453209136/if-the-shoe-fits-the-rise-of-the-stylish-comfort-shoe

It might be just me, but shoes are the LAST thing I look at when I meet a person. I know there was the caveat of "subconsciously." but still, I don't believe I've ever looked at another person's footwear and -- consciously or subconsciously -- judged them on that...

I was could tell a gentleman by his shoes and fingernails nails, so that was also my first look after I glimpsed their face.


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[ILikeToBendPages]

This was one of the one hit wonders of the 60's.


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[neesaki]

Hi everyone, just checking in to say hey, and hope everyone has had a nice relaxing weekend. Zuri, hope you're getting plenty of rest and feeling better. :hug:

And also want to tell you about a strangely familiar sounding story I'm watching on ID. It's about a woman, Dana Chandler, who bought two gas cans then drove over 500 miles to kill her ex and his fiance. But before that she stalked him, as in she would show up at his house over 500 miles away and be caught jumping on the trampoline in his back yard, peek through the windows into his house, etc. The victim also told a friend that if he ended up dead she's the one that did it. :scared:Sounds kind of familiar, huh?
Well, I'm still tired from the time change, so I'm going to bed early, lol. I need to wake up, for the past few days all I want to do is sleep ! :shame: See you guys later.:seeya:

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

Rescue me by Fontella Bass.



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[coffeejunkie]

Good Morning! I will catch up with ya'll when I get back...

Be happy and hope your days are just as nice as you are

:loveyou:

PS: I look at the shoes people have on. I am a shoe freak and have tons of shoes lol.

 

[Zuri]

Snipped by me:

1. Your shoes are the first thing people subconsciously notice about you. Wear nice shoes.


I love some of these recommendations, but this first one has me flummoxed.

I used to be a high-heel person and bona fide shoe junkie, but now I choose my shoes for comfort and functionality. I can only imagine the the age group for this survey was fairly young, and not that savvy about the needs and requirements of different people.

NPR did an interesting story on this:
http://www.npr.org/2015/11/03/453209136/if-the-shoe-fits-the-rise-of-the-stylish-comfort-shoe

It might be just me, but shoes are the LAST thing I look at when I meet a person. I know there was the caveat of "subconsciously." but still, I don't believe I've ever looked at another person's footwear and -- consciously or subconsciously -- judged them on that...

Jumping off your post:

I seem to notice shoes and handbags on women or it is just what registers as I take in the whole person. You can tell a lot about a person by their facial expression, what they are wearing, posture and tone of voice if you are speaking with them. I think it is some unconscious or subconscious, primal thing we do as you see animals, like dogs, do it all the time, to see whether the other person is friend or foe.

I happen to like shoes and handbags, so they would probably register in my brain somewhere. Women tend to judge other women by appearance and size them up. When did we learn to do this? No clue. In fashion magazines, the experts will tell you to lead with your designer handbag when you enter a room if you don't know a lot of people....assuming everyone has one lol.

I am sure your shoes are perfect! I can't wear heels at all as I fall over, so I am envious of anyone who can. Flats are where it is! How women can walk in any heel over 3" is beyond me.

 

[Niner]

Morning all! :wave:

Have a massage today!! :happydance:

Than a few errands before coming home. MORE RAIN today!!! :skip: Hopefully, NOT when I'm out and about!

Not much going on this thread!

So - off I go to read my other ones!

Later! :seeya:

 

[Zuri]

BBM But the author thinks she is doing a good deed by visiting/writing the murderer- time well spent in her eyes, IMO.

I don't see your comment on the website???? Did she delete it?

I don't like what this woman had to say in her article. In my eyes she makes anyone who doesn't have some compassion for the murderer sound ...bad...not loving- with her "small love and small kindness" statement. I'm offended by her as I get the impression,in a way, that she is judging the people who don't feel/do the same. What does she see that many people don't see in the murderer-there for the grace of God go I? I would not murder anyone and most of us would not/could not murder. To what end does she visit "the only Jodi I know"? (this fake person, this liar- that's the reality for me, and she does not deserve "respite" , IMO). She needs to ask forgiveness, not only fromTravis and his loved ones, but to the whole world for what she has done to another- murdering someone who was very loved by others and had the capacity to do so much good for others in his life. The hurt there that she has wraught is so great, IMO.

This "extremist" woman who visits the murderer said:

"We have never discussed her trial, the past, or the future. It’s just a brief respite from reality. Even for me. Because I’ve made the decision to visit her, I separate her from her crime. The only Jodi I know is the one I see for 30 minutes every few weeks. I still hold on to my belief that it is not my role to judge, but rather to be an extremist offering love and small kindnesses."

I wish I knew how to " separate her from her crime". I guess I don't have as much compassion for the murderer as this woman does. I do judge her and I don't know how to stop judging her for murdering an innocent man that she claimed to love. I have always believed that it is not my place to judge also, but.... I do judge her and that's a sad fact for me. I judge her in the eyes of all good people who think life is precious and not something to slaughter as she has.

I know that having compassion for someone does not cancel out the consequences of their actions. I do not lack empathy for people, so why is it so hard to have it for her? I truly tried to have compassion for her- many times, but I failed.

Genuine compassion is impossible for me in this case because, again,I feel the injury is too great- murder is the greatest injury, to take that something from another, their life (the most precious thing anyone has.) If she will not take responsibility for the death of Travis as her own, is un-remorseful (and I don't believe she has any real remorse here), why must I "forgive her her trespasses" and have compassion for her? I cannot give her "cheap" compassion/forgiveness- just words from me to show the world what a wonderful person I am. And what is wrong with refusing to have compassion for this person- this murderer- in this anyway? Someone please answer me that. Bah!

All thru the murderer's trial, I struggled with my faith and kept questioning myself about how I felt about the DP. I have, I thought, a steadfast stance against the DP, but I struggled with the thought of wanting her to get the DP and my desire for her to get it. And then, on the other hand, that she is a person too and shouldn't be killed. There was/is now a turmoil that is going on in my, what I call, my "inner light"- the light that is attached to goodness, kindness, and compassion for others. It's a struggle, in any event, now ( and I don't want to lose that light) and that's why I needed a breakthis past summer from WS and murder to pray for more guidense in what , I think, I stand for.

And what about the author's comments?- telling the world what a wonderful person she is by doing so many other things besides write to the murderer once a week or visit her.

and this little ditty she wrote:

"...this is who I am and what I do. I sincerely hope that how I spend my time meets your expectations of a life well spent."

Talk about passive-aggressive.

Well- enough of my rant- my thoughts today are all me "just saying" - talking from my inner mind -that I'm making y'all endure (because maybe my thoughts don't make any sense). I need help to find more humility because my inner light is dim in the murderer's case.

One more thing: If you compare this author with Sister Prejean and Robert Lee Willie, (you know Dead Man Walking) at least the Sister tried to get him to take responsibility for what he had done and just didn't visit him to give him some "respite" (as if he deserved some respite) and a nice little conversation- all laughing and ha-ha. So what is this author's agenda- a book? (even Sr Prejean wrote a book) hmmmmm. I took great offense when the Sister testified that Dzhokhar Tsarnaev expressed sincere remorse for the pain he caused the victims of the Boston bombing, as to pull at the juror's heartstrings and not give him the DP. He did not express this remorse himself to all the victims- so important, IMO, in seeking forgiveness for his crime- and to me it was only her remorse being spoken at the trial. It would have been a lot more sincere to hear him express that remorse. If there was true remorse, why didn't it come from him? It leads me to believe that he hid behind her- a nun- and was not genuinely sorry for what he did and only wanted to not get the DP in any way possible, IMO.

I need to pray more ( and I need prayers for me) to get back on that path that I want my life to be on.

OK? OK. :winkkiss:

(I'll be back later to post some things- gotta go pick up my son's car with him from the car mechanic and I'm getting a new Winter coat , so I'll see you all later).

Your post gave me a lot to think about and digest. I also needed a break from this case, but failed to do the soul searching you did which I most admire. Every now and then, like when I read that woman's article, I react as I thought she just wrote it to brag about her ability to visit Heinous in Estrella.

I am sending you prayers, jingles, love and light as you continue on your journey. I actually would like to join you as I need to grow and be a better, more compassionate and enlightened person.

Thank you for sharing such an inspirational post.

 

[Zuri]

I did taper off slowly...and it still threw me for a loop

It does throw you off. The reasons for tapering slowly, as in Medrol dose packs, is so you don't become Addisonian.
http://endocrinesurgery.ucla.edu/patient_education_adm_acute_adrenal_crisis.html

A degree of Cushing's or cushingoid is what happens when you take steroids for any length of time. The higher the dose and the longer you take them, the more cushinoid you become.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cushing's_syndrome

This is why steroids are typically used sparingly and short term. I really hope your time away will return you to the picture of good health. Enjoy!

 

[Zuri]

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My daughter just showed me this video which was a very clever ad ploy for the release of remake of Carrie in 2013. Can you imagine getting your coffee and this happening? OMG I would be 10 blocks down the road, as fast as my little chunky legs could carry me.