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I don't think anybody here has said he should not face consequences. I think most think they should be age appropriate consequences.
But what would age appropriate consequences be for something this serious?
An extended time out?
I agree that an intensive family investigation be conducted as this child did not get this gun out of thin air. Stopping the cycle of violence is difficult. But, what "if" this child just found the gun? It happens. I've had students find guns (but they turned them in) and yes, some of these kids were in 3rd grade. How would you be able to hold any parents accountable if the child "found" the gun on the way to school?
There is more to this story. Bet on it. He had his reasons for bringing this gun to school.
Responsibility is a dirty word now a days. He was responsible. What message do we send if we try to "excuse" this because of his age?
When does "responsibility" start? How old does one have to be to be considered responsible? Does it depend on the act of irresponsibility? Its well known that gangs use small children to crawl through house windows and unlock the door so the "older" kids can rob it. Then, when caught, they throw the young child under the bus because "he's so young - he didn't know what he was doing"?
JMHO
He said he brought the gun to school because he was going to run away.
Again, this is an example of a nine year old's thinking. Nobody needs a gun to run away.
Seems he got the gun from his Mom's house after a visit.
IMO SHE should be charged. But from what I'm reading, WA does not have laws regarding the adult leaving guns around.
That's twisted IMO.
I think he needs help. Not being treated like an adult criminal.
It is obvious he did not mean to hurt anybody.JMO
BBM
And I'm quite sure that most drunk drivers who get in their cars and drive don't mean to hurt anybody.
I agree that he needs help. But he also needs consequences.
There has to be more to the "running away" story of why he felt he needed a gun to run away. Would like to hear the rest of that conversation. Did he need a gun for protection to run away? And wouldn't that add credence to his "consciencousness of guilt"? Needing a gun for protection says that the individual knows guns are weapons and can be used to "hurt"?
I also agree his mom should face some type of charges.
I don't know what the answers should be. But I do know that something needs to be changed when it comes to kids hurting, shooting, killing other kids. Kids kill kids every day. To continue the cycle of not punishing kids for such blatant acts of irresponsibility just multiplies the victims. There has to be some type of accountability. If this child does not receive any "punishment" for this, what have we, as a society, taught him? That its ok to act irresponsible and break the rules (law) is ok as long as you have a good "excuse"?
JMHO
Accident or not.
Concrete operations stage or not.
This child knew the rules. He knew that bringing a gun to school was wrong and against the rules. That much he did know. He was told.
He brought a gun to school. Period.
That gun went off and shot another child. Period.
Both the child and whoever the adult was that did not secure that gun so that child could get to it should face consequences.
Thank God that the little girl will be ok.
The "law" was broken when he brought that gun onto school grounds and he knew he was breaking it when he did it.
JMHO
My point about the drunk drivers was lost. I was trying to show that a lot of times the "intention of hurting" isn't there.
Criminal malice? No. I agree with that.
Its what you said:
Should he have taken the gun? No.
Should he have brought the gun to school? No.
He knew (9 years old or not) he was told. Do not bring weapons to school. AND he knew why that was a rule, yet he did it anyway. He defied authority regardless of his intention to hurt. Accidents happen - yet accidents are minimized when rules are followed.
I can tell you, from my experiences, that there is so much more to this. Most children know right from wrong and they try to do the right thing, especially when it comes to bringing guns to school. He didn't. And its the "why he didn't" that should come into play here. Its the "because he didn't" that there is an innocent little girl fighting for her life in a hospital.
What are the parents of the little girl to think? I can't imagine what they are going through. She was an innocent victim. There is no excuse for why she was shot at school. None.
I don't know if parading this child into a courtroom in an orange jail jumpsuit was the right thing to do or not. How are we, as a society, supposed to send messages to parents and children alike that we have societal rules and laws that are to be followed? And, if they aren't - bad things happen.
I can say that if this child doesn't get into a theraputic environment and receive appropriate and specific help, he won't "learn" anything from this and nothing will change.
I also feel it is insensitive to the victim and her parents to try to excuse away this child's act of defiance by reason of his age. He was old enough to know right from wrong and old enough to understand the rule of no guns on school property. But then saying he isn't old enough to face the consequences of what he did doesn't make any sense.
Responsibility and accountability aren't age specific. If one is old enough to know right from wrong - then one is old enough to be held responsible and accountable.
JMHO
My six year old knows that guns can hurt. He knows that guns can kill, and even though I doubt that he fully understands the concept of "kill", he knows that it isn't good.
There is a part of me that wants to say that if my 6 year old can get it, surely a nine year old could.
But, my son knows these things because I taught him. If i hadn't taught him, he wouldn't know.
I know nothing about the parenting the nine year old has recieved,with the exception of the fact that one of the people that was supposed to be watching and teaching him let him access a loaded firearm. I have no idea what he was taught about that loaded firearm.
I think that this child is going to need therapy simply because he did cause the death of another child, regardless of his intention that day.
As far as criminal charges, I just don't know, and I'm glad I don't have to make that call. The parent that allowed him to access the gun, apparently his mother, should be facing charges, but for some reason, it appears that WA legislature never got around to addressing what should happen to a parent that leaves a gun lying around.
Doesn't understand? I think a 9 year old is perfectly capable of understanding.
Brains do not completely reach maturity until one is in the 20's. That is scientifically proven.
A nine year old's capacity for understanding and making decisions is going to differ radically from an adult's.
We know those things, there have been numerous studies to prove them.
We cannot judge a child's actions by adult standards, especially in situations where there was no intent involved.
There should be consequences, but they should be age appropriate.
Hmmm. I honestly don't know quite what to say. I need to know more about this boy and his living situation. Horrid....any way you look at it. How I pray that Amina pulls through.
http://news.yahoo.com/father-kid-made-mistake-school-shooting-234421181.html
Father: 'My kid made a mistake' in school shooting
February 23, 2012
"Crying and wearing an orange jail jumpsuit, a frightened 9-year-old boy accused of accidentally shooting a classmate sat before a judge in juvenile court Thursday as his father gently rubbed his back. The scene coming a day after police said the boy accidently shot a fellow third-grader raised questions that will be played out in the legal system: Did he know what he did was wrong? And is anyone else responsible?
Bail was set at $50,000 during the preliminary hearing, and ultimately the court will determine whether the third-grader will face criminal charges as an 8-year-old girl remains critically wounded. "I just want everyone to know that my kid made a mistake. It was a terrible mistake," the boy's father, Jason Cochran, said outside the courthouse...."
and
"....Authorities believe he got the weapon during a visitation with his mother over the weekend, according to charging documents released Thursday. The documents state that the boy told a classmate about five days ago that he was going to bring his "dad's gun" to school and run away. The gun discharged after the boy slammed his backpack down on a desk..."
and
"....The boy's classmate remained in critical condition at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle after undergoing surgery for a gunshot wound. Dr. Eileen Bulger said the girl will likely be at the hospital for several weeks and face further surgeries. She was sedated and on a ventilator but has woken up and interacted with her parents...."
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