The 'there's no doubt in my mind that we're not going to see her again' statement weirdos me out well and truly.
I understand that it's not what he meant to say, in that that would be crazy, especially with the part about giving them hope. I don't buy the double negative intention 'we're not not going to see her again' so I figure either he was planning to go with 'I don't believe we're not going to see her again' or something like that but tried to change it to sound more forceful and messed up, or else it's a weird Freudian slip. Either way I think it's weird that the news left it in there, surely they spotted it as strange and they could've used a different part of his statement, or had him repeat it in a way that doesn't sound like he's absolutely certain his wife is dead?
Lavanda, your statement about having changed your mind and suspecting foul play more is interesting to me- are you able to elaborate on why you now think this?
Also think its interesting that we've had reports of zero phone coverage in the spot the phone was found, and that Jen wasn't known to have a protective case.
As to the statement about husbands and affairs, mine has enough trouble dealing with one woman, I think two would melt his brain, but in general I have to disagree on a feminist level! I know women AND men who have had affairs and I would say its not about gender, it's about ego, and being a jerk, which either gender is more than capable of. While I know some people DO make 'arrangements' within a marriage or relationship, IMO these arrangements are usually very honest between partners - so I believe that if this were the case (which I felt was implied?) then Jen would definitely have been aware of the affair- but nobody has confirmed that she was. I also would think it would be rare for one of these 'arrangements' to involve a close friend.
Just, these statements about it being 'complex' bother me- relationships are always complex, and even more so when you add a third person. But without Jennifer present to speak to these complexities, it to me, like others have said, does seem deeply inappropriate to carry on close personal relations with someone you recently had an an affair with when your wife is missing. And I agree that as the kids grow up, then no matter the outcome of Jennifer's disappearance, that's going to be very difficult to deal with.
Rant over.
