one night on GVS I heard the mom and grandmom say they were going to stop talking bad about RC & stuff for the sake of finding Haleigh and Jr's Birthday that weekend. (that didnt mean forever) That was the case, right? Okay, things were fine up until this weekend, ...a whole week passes before it turns into this.{ Perhaps GR should come on his show or blog and explain this to ALL of us, because he is partially responsible for it happening}.........on the other side, maybe there wasnt a motive, other than, out of anguish & frustration have more questions....I didnt see anger to any degree that would give me a second thought about motive..., maybe GR hyped em up a little and it fueled the fire. I dont know how it all came to be, they all have "baggage". We alls gots baggage. :crazy:
I remember the photograph of Crystal crouched down on her knee over Ron crying. That was real. Despite all her flaws and all their "baggage" they had the heart enough to embrace as the moments were fresh & raw. They made 2beautiful babies together. But tears dry up and your head tries to rationalize the events over and over. They are all thinking about Haliegh and still are. During that time, it was real and it wasnt pretend for anyone. But you have to cope and survive. None of them have any control over their daily lives anymore, it wont be the same. And what if.....over a period of a few days...they became like some of us here and wanted to know this... Two weeks in this and "we" know nothing new or conclusive. No closer than we were before and no news from them. You would find that troubling, most definatley. They are all human, but you cannot make them like each other. We cannot keep picking their wounds.
We arent going to get anywhere, but down and angry, because we all have our stories, and yes, very real and raw for some that have to carry past trauma & resentment. Been there done that. Can you say after a week, that you, yourself wouldnt get yourself together? My mother always told me one thing...."when youre done cryin, pull your boot straps up and get back in there...blah blah". Your family will pull you in and pull you together when times get tough. That is a given. On both sides. Theres things those families haven't even heard about each other or did they who cares, ...we better believe that they are all having to a come to terms family meetin. I couldnt imagine having to be in their shoes right now and face all that. I know how hard it is standing there at a family function and having your stuff be out there....and grandma, poor grammaw is trying to keep everyone from getting out of control, usually its by food or some distraction.
That weekend, it was her visitation weekend and jr' birthday. But the vigil, the one where she broke down and they all cried in each others arms, that was real. Real emotion, real pain! All of them. I cried seeing that. It wasnt a show or for show. It was reality and we got to watch it unfold. How painful and real can life get, I wonder? All I kept thinking was she has her mother there to comfort her and she not ther to comfort her own daughter. She hurting, they are all hurting. Missing your little girl is as much painful for one as it is the other. If we deny Crystal her right to pain and anger of this type of loss, what have we become?....we minimize her pain?, we minimize her past? Give this mother time to get it together and ach for her daughter like the father, give her permission to try to be there for Haleigh and not make it seem like she's up to no good.
I have been sad about this all day.....I understand with all my heart that this GR interview happened. I agree that it wasnt the time or the place. But this is their mess from here on and Its not up to us to clean it up. LE, for whatever reason, is doing their jobs and they have their reasons for not saying or doing the same things we, some of us, where used to in the "other" case. We are dealing with a different families, with different "baggage" and a new deck of cards. I dont want to engage in secondary wounding of people, by minimizing and microanylizing every wound they already know they have. I'm so sorry this was long. But I had to speak my peace from my heart and tell some of ya'll that its hurting to see so many smart people butting heads about this family. If anything, we can learn from this.
