CA CA - Maya Millete, 39, missed daughter's birthday, Chula Vista, 7 Jan 2021 #4 *husband arrested*

[Marysmith]

The post from Curious Me offers sound advice, which is *seek professional help* for a domestic situation. Domestic violence/homicide is an epidemic in the U.S.

After years of study and observation on this issue, i have come to the conclusion that while additional laws and programs and so forth need to be put in to place, the real solve is to raise strong women. Women who are cherished and value themselves, and will immediately banish anyone from their lives that show any sign of being an abuser. First strike; you're out. No second or third chances. We must treat women to value themselves.

In Maya's case, it's hard to know when the abuse started. LM's mind seems as if it had become so bitter, and warped.

Amateur opinion and speculation

Just for myself I did seek professional help and I know others have as well and didn’t make it out. It’s very hard when children are involved and it’s hard for anyone to actually know what will happen next when you are dealing with a disordered person. Judges rarely take custody away these days. I know of several people whose ex-partner’s had very serious charges and even convictions and were allowed access to the children. 1 was murdered well after the divorce and custody arrangements were made, killed in a parking lot dropping their child off at a court ordered visit.
LM had probably always been controlling and Maya was so young when they met.

 

[rosesfromangels]

LM had probably always been controlling and Maya was so young when they met.

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I'm glad you made it Mary. I think you are spot on that Maya got married so young; before she really had a chance to evaluate what would make a good husband, or not. Before she had a chance to really decide what was the right path in life for her.

Did anyone figure out with certainty where the children are now?

Amateur opinion and speculation

 

[WellThen]

from the link (MAY SAID) - "She replied: "How about maybe you focus on also what women want from their husbands? All these things you send me are just about you which further solidifies the whole idea that you really think I'm the problem and that if you could only fix me everything will be ok."

UUUFFFF cant see ole lar taking that one well.

Just read the arrest warrant. Was a bit underwhelmed by it. I just hope there's more evidence that hasn't been released. I absolutely believe Larry murdered Maya but was surprised at the lack of forensic evidence in the arrest warrant. Did LE not find any evidence in the home that a murder took place?

The circumstancial evidence is pretty damning -the texts, emails, spellcasting stuff, neighbor's surveillance, car GPS. It all paints quite a picture of what happened Jan 7. I am just surprised and expected more. DNA? Cadaver dogs? License plate reader capturing the lexus?

(for reference, a similar case is Suzanne Morphew, and the arrest affidavit for her husband was 130 pages and overwhelmingly prooved he murdered her.)

 

[Curious Me]

Vigil to be held for missing Chula Vista mother Maya Millete | cbs8.com Published: 6:29 PM PDT October 22, 2021

OT-- but may be of interest to some.
In other local news ... There was a shooting on the 35th floor of a high rise apt. yesterday with no known motive yet. A woman said to be Filipino according to the news report did live there, but the man shot did not live in the high rise apt. The supposed shooter lived on the 35th floor and was possibly the woman victim's roommate. He was stopped on the freeway with a five yr. old little girl. Poor little girl. No known motive yet.

East Village shooting: Suspect in deadly SPIRE shooting identified (fox5sandiego.com)

 

[PsychSnack]

Larry Googled "plant you take to never wake up" in March 2020 and the poisonous plant "water hemlock" in November 2020, according to the warrant. In December 2020, he Googled "my wife doesn’t want me to touch her" and searched "Flunitrazepam, Rohypnol, and diphenhydramine," which are "central nervous system sedatives and depressants that could be used to incapacitate a person."

So, we know he’s charged with premeditated murder. These google searches along with other evidence help support that he was planning something. If this is the case…I don’t think he used the gun to kill her. He wanted to harm her using a drug or plant or by a third party casting a spell. He would not make a bloody mess…IMO. My assumption is murder by strangulation (much more personal and he has a past history of strangling her). If that’s the case, the presumed gun shots or other loud bangs were most likely him doing something to scare her beforehand or doing something after he killed her (shooting holes in something? freezer?) that would explain the reloading of the gun.
Also, the gps thing has me perplexed. IMO being a car buff, he def knew the older model GPS can’t track his trail like the newer models. We also know he’s not as smart as he thinks he is because he left so many trails for us to follow. I think he was legitimately lost on Jan 8th. IMO I imagine him taking off that morning (after dropping off his son) and driving like a bat outta hell and absolutely reeling from the events to find somewhere hours away that is secluded so he could dump the body. I think once he finished he then realized he had no idea where he was…
I think she’s northeastern in the mountainous region about 2.5 hours away from home. Just my own speculation.

**also how does he explain his lie to police about being at Solana Beach? If he was so close to home why would his GPS put him 2.5 hours away? He’s caught in a lie there. MOO
Missing Maya Millete's husband Larry choked her until she passed out, Googled date rape drugs: warrant

 

[scriabina]

Just catching up on here. I had been checking the thread daily and was losing hope that LM would ever be charged with May's murder. Seems the moment I stopped reading, that horrible monster was arrested!

I'm wondering about hex requests. LM asked spellcasters for spells to break Maya's bones and cause her injuries from a bike crash. He made it clear he wanted her bedridden and reliant on him. When a spellcaster receives a request to inflict bodily harm on someone, why isn't that a reportable offense? Asking for spells to harm others should not be permitted. It just seems like these spellcasters would have a lot of information that could potentially save someone's life. I don't know if the spell recipes are considered confidential due to religious exemption or what, but I feel like these spellcasting companies should be regulated somehow to protect victims of abuse. Many of them are apparently just businesses trying to turn a profit.

The husband had repeated contact with various companies offering “spells” online, authorities said. The purported psychics and spirit channelers sold Larry spells he could “cast” on May.

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“The emails became increasingly panicked,” Vicente says, describing spells that Larry purchased to harm Maya badly enough that she relied on him and couldn’t leave. On a family trip to ride dirt bikes, for example, Larry appeared to request a curse that would make his wife crash and get stuck on bedrest, investigators say.

“Can you hex to have her hurt enough that she will have to depend on me and need my help,” Larry wrote in an email, according to the affidavit. “She’s only nice to me when she needs me or sick.”

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While investigators say they built their case on evidence of Larry’s online obsession with his wife, a sudden departure from that activity was also presented as a critical clue. Starting Jan. 9, one day after his wife’s disappearance, “Larry’s focus shifts.”

“He sends emails through the beginning of February asking to punish the man with whom May had an affair,” the detective said. “As of January 9, Larry does not direct any more spells or ‘hexes’ toward May, nor does he make any more requests for assistance with his crumbling marriage.”

Source

 

[PsychSnack]

MOO, the timeline from the arrest warrant has me speculating Maya was still alive until LM’s last email to the spell caster at 2:36am on 1/8. This is taken from the Arrest warrant. What happened within those five hours in bold are critical. I pray she didn’t suffer, but I cannot help but remember his first interview when he said he heard her “rustling around” on January 8th. Makes me sick.

January 7th
3:48 pm Maya calls divorce atty
4:39 pm LM sends spell caster message to make her stay
9:15 pm Maya shares toy haul with fam on FB
9:21 pm LM screenshots cryptocurrency sending to daughters
9:57 pm 9 loud bangs
10:34 pm kids heard outside in backyard playing

January 8th
1:25 am Maya’s phone activity stops
2:36 am LM sends another message to spell caster
5:58 am LM backs Lexus into garage
6:45 am LM phone turns off
6:45 am LM leaves the home
6:06 pm LM returns home
6:34 pm LM phone turns on

January 9th
5:55 am LM asks spell caster to remove hex on May

https://interactive.cbs8.com/pdf/millette-arrest-warrant.pdf

 

[Curious Me]

On the News at 11 p.m., I saw the CVPD Chief speaking on this news channel. They also showed on the screen a pic of the Lexus and the license plate. I can't find the link to that report. Getting a pic out there of the Lexus just might reach somebody with info.

This is from the actual Prayer Vigil tonight. Maricris speaks in this video. She says she is so tired, so tired. She has to keep going for Maya's children and for Maya's parents. I'm adding my prayers that Maya is found soon.

Prayer vigil held in Chula Vista for Maya Millete (10news.com)

"Members of the community who have been at the forefront of the search efforts since Maya disappeared say their work is not done. They have been busy organizing events like Friday’s vigil to show support for Maya’s family."

"They have also put together a search event over the weekend, where they will canvass through the desert, hoping to find something that can lead them to Maya."

 

[Curious Me]

9:15 pm Maya shares toy haul with fam on FB

What is the toy haul? I'm thinking presents for DD b-day? I got chills reading your post and that timeline.

 

[Lilibet]

What is the toy haul? I'm thinking presents for DD b-day? I got chills reading your post and that timeline.

A “toy haul” might be short for “toy hauler,” a type of RV (either trailer or 5th wheel) that opens at the back so that “toys” like dune buggies and motorcycles can be loaded and “hauled” to a camping area. They also have the usual RV amenities like beds, kitchen, etc although not as fancy as a regular RV. Some of my San Diego friends take them out to the desert.

But, of course, it could also refer to birthday presents.

 

[Curious Me]

A “toy haul” might be short for “toy hauler,” a type of RV (either trailer or 5th wheel) that opens at the back so that “toys” like dune buggies and motorcycles can be loaded and “hauled” to a camping area...

Oh, I never would have thought of that. Never heard that term. It certainly fits. It's just not part of my lifestyle now days. That sounds like it fits in with their planning for the trip. Thank You @Lilibet. It makes me sad though to think in just a little while she isn't probably alive anymore.

 

[PsychSnack]

What is the toy haul? I'm thinking presents for DD b-day? I got chills reading your post and that timeline.

toy haul is for the RV. You can load bikes, kayaks…etc in it b/c it has a ramp on the back.

***edit, just saw Lilibet answered this

 

[Lilibet]

Oh, I never would have thought of that. Never heard that term. It certainly fits. It's just not part of my lifestyle now days. That sounds like it fits in with their planning for the trip. Thank You @Lilibet. It makes me sad though to think in just a little while she isn't probably alive anymore.

You’re welcome. We used to be full-time RVers and stay a lot at Santee Lakes to visit San Diego family and friends, so we got familiar with the various kinds of RVs. If Maya had a toy hauler, I’m sure she was planning to enjoy it with her family and friends.

It’s all so tragic. The whole spell caster thing is so creepy! It’s upsetting that the spell caster didn’t have enough integrity to report LM’s requests/purchases to LE.

 

[Niner]

Speaking of domestic violence - anyone here seen "Maid" - it has 10 episodes. Just finished watching it.

 

[Marysmith]

Speaking of domestic violence - anyone here seen "Maid" - it has 10 episodes. Just finished watching it.

I saw the preview and it looks good but not sure I can stomach it honestly.

 

[Curious Me]

Maya Millete’s loved ones ‘praying’ husband Larry will have change of heart | FOX 5 San Diego Updated: Oct 22, 2021 / 11:12 PM PDT

“We loved him,” she said. “My sister loved him and he’s still the father of my nieces and nephew. That’s not going to change. It’s just unfortunate he did what he did to my sister.”

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“(We’re) hoping and praying really hard that he’ll have a change of heart,” Drouaillet said. “Just do it for his kids, so his kids know where their mom is.”

 

[Marysmith]

Maya Millete’s loved ones ‘praying’ husband Larry will have change of heart | FOX 5 San Diego Updated: Oct 22, 2021 / 11:12 PM PDT

“We loved him,” she said. “My sister loved him and he’s still the father of my nieces and nephew. That’s not going to change. It’s just unfortunate he did what he did to my sister.”

[...]

“(We’re) hoping and praying really hard that he’ll have a change of heart,” Drouaillet said. “Just do it for his kids, so his kids know where their mom is.”

Wow. This story is so heartbreaking!!

 

[Curious Me]

Here's the news broadcast I mentioned last night, but couldn't provide a link.

"I never stopped fighting for May" CVPD Chief one-on-one with ABC 10News

"Chief Kennedy called the case devastating, and described how her personal perspective as a wife and mother made this case especially painful. She tells Hunt in detail how investigators worked along side Child Protective Services thru all these months in order to protect the Millete children." BBM

[...]

"Now Chief Kennedy hopes the public will come forward. She hoping someone knows something or saw something."

"Particularly on the day investigators believe Larry disposed of Maya's body in the family's 2015 black GX 460 Lexus with a custom license plate of: MAYLANI."

 

[JerseyGirl]

‘This Is Not the End': Search Continues for Missing Chula Vista Mom

 

[rosesfromangels]

“(We’re) hoping and praying really hard that he’ll have a change of heart,” Drouaillet said. “Just do it for his kids, so his kids know where their mom is.”

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I don't see him ever speaking up. He would lose control then, and the ability to inflict torment. Sure hope i'm wrong about that.

Amateur opinion and speculation