kamky
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Hey, kamky!
I really do understand what you're saying. Crystal does not seem to be the proactive type on many things, but I don't think it makes her a bad mom, or one who doesn't love her kids. Not making excuses, but it seems she is very submissive and still seems to be quite intimidated by Ronald. I get the impression she is afraid to ask Ronald any questions at all.
I also think Crystal is very young for her age.... She and Ronald both seem to be a bit immature imo.
I could be wrong, but I doubt Haleigh would've been able to tell Crystal the exact times relating to school and the bus. And perhaps Crystal didn't dig for more details because she felt they weren't all that important since she was not the one responsible for handling school.
I think there is quite the double standard going on.... most people wouldn't bat an eye to find out that a non-custodial father doesn't know the exact times about school and the bus.
Anyway, I just feel that NG unfairly blasted Crystal in that interview. No doubt Crystal was already a nervous wreck, and is already quite bashful to begin with. I think she was kinda caught off guard.
Nancy did not treat Granny Sykes that way when she responded to Nancy's questions with "I don't know" and claimed that she did not ask Misty any questions about the night Haleigh went missing. Even though she lives in the same house with her.
Bottom line, Crystal is not perfect (none of us are), but her lack of knowledge about her kids' daily schedule pales in comparison to custodial parent Ronald's blatant irresponsible behavior and scary choices in regards to taking care of his children.
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I agree 100% about the immaturity of the parents on both sides. It seems to me that this would be a good time for both of them to try and be adult and strong for Haleigh and for Jr. But, perhaps that's unfair because they have had a horrible thing happen in their life and their pain and stress level must be hard to bear.
I also agree that Nancy can be harsh and unfair, and sometimes I have no idea why she takes a particular approach. Probably to get the most TV drama. I know that I sure would be a nervous wreck if I were on her show!
Out of all of this, other than wishing Haleigh would be found soon and safe, my second wish would be that both parents become more responsible, that Ron learns to control his temper, and that Crystal becomes more involved with what's going on in her kids' lives.
One more thought - it is very clear from the many many photos of the kids' with both of their parents, and from all the cuddling, hugging, and loving from Jr, with both parents, (from the Dunnes Creek church video), that the kids dearly love both parents, despite what we see as their shortcomings. The kids have told us this loud and clear!