Thank you, and most states are no different.
Probably, but I honestly think that the states that are Community Property States are the easiest and have the shortest and most amicable divorces.
I went into my 2nd marriage with a lot of my own antique furniture, my great grandmothers’ heirlooms, my 3 sons sports equipment and their other items, etc.
Because the divorce was drawn out over 2 yrs, during that time, I was not allowed to remove any of it from the house that both my STBX and I owned.
He and his young son were allowed to stay in the house and since my sons were grown and didn’t live with us, I was the one who had to move out.
Despite that the court said he could not have his gf move in, she did anyway.
I would have willingly had a Community Property Divorce, had a mediator help us split the items we owned together and moved on. While I still felt sane, had no anger and was eager for the marriage to end.
Instead I had to sit back and watch my ex’s GF living in my house, with my furniture, using my dishes, sleep in my bed, enjoy my grandmothers’ items, his son using and ruining many of my sons’ items.
On top of all that, were all the times he was in contempt of court orders and I had to file the motions, had to take off work, go to court, have him either not show up or cancel at last minute!
When he did show up, he was told to fix whatever he had done, which he didn’t or was told to not do it again.
It’s very easy for someone who thinks and is told by his/her Atty that he/she has the grounds, is told he/she will get what is deserved, what is theirs, etc .... to get angry and feel at times crazy because it’s just not going the way it should be going and the way the Atty’s keep saying it will!
Atty’s see and experience court proceedings everyday. It’s all so familiar to them and yet so foreign to those who are new to it. We depend so much on our chosen Atty’s that they’ll do the best and fight for us. I never had that feeling!
As I said before, I think divorces could and should be mediated in the beginning where by things could be worked out, wayyyy before emotions get out of hand and turn to anger
and fear; before resentment, revenge and false accusations, name calling, threating behavior and before feelings of going crazy set in.
One of the attorneys here said there’s always one if the parties that us nuts. I’m here to say that my CT divorce just about drove me nuts.
And being a psych nurse, working in a psych hospital, I had a lot of mental health coworkers who were very helpful and supportive... and I still felt like I was about to go over the edge many times.
I’m sorry I’ve brought up my CT Divorce many times. This case is so close to what I went through and is bringing up so many emotions. Please bear with me! Or as others say: scroll and roll!
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