afitzy
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Interesting hypothetical.Since hindsight is always 20/20, it would have been fascinating to see what Fotis would have done if either Jennifer or Gloria opted to stop paying the mortgage and the property taxes on 4jx. Where would he and Michi have gone? To one of the other houses? For how long? The property taxes would have to be paid on all of those properties, too. It would have eventually shown him to be the charlatan that he was. He was no “master builder”, no rich business owner, no high class anything. Just a dope who could have been anything he wanted, if he had just behaved better. He and Michi would have eventually been homeless, and he would have had to permit Jennifer to divorce him and gotten a decent settlement. But he just could not do it. I think that it’s unclear that anything would have saved Jennifer’s life, and she probably would not have wanted the credit rating hit that she would have taken for the house to go into foreclosure, but it would have fixed his wagon a little sooner. Michi would have left him, because he didn’t have any money (and that was what she wanted). But there is no crystal ball.
Thinking about it I very much wonder if the anger and hatred combined with extreme financial pressure with a house of cards collapsing rended FD unable to see any way forward other than murder and his own suicide?
For all his education I don’t get the sense he could control either his emotions or anger and seemed to have no flexibility in his thinking. I was rereading some old articles about the cost of the divorce and it was financially crushing even JF, so I can only imagine what it was all like when FD couldn’t pay the bills, had maxed out the credit cards and was getting declined when filling up the trucks with petrol. So many articles make mention of FD choosing to win at all costs and how everything had to be his way always.
What is tragic imo about the FD fixed mindset is the impact it had on everything he came into contact with, including his family.
Looking at the old estimates we did about the extent of the financial hole FD was in, my guess is that there was a way out and way forward but it would have required some collaboration possibly with the Farber family. I simply don’t think FD was wired to collaborate and simply wanted destroy the Farber family no matter what the cost. The cost was his life and he willingly and deliberately gave it up. Narc anger is real and can be dangerous on many fronts.
I just got finished re reading an article describing the suicide and I recall watching it on air live at the time and it was a stunning event and a testimony imo the mental health issues present at the time with FD. FD saw no way out, knew he couldn’t afford his attorneys any longer and was facing life in prison. FD had without blinking put broke MT in the rear view mirror and moved on with Anna Curry and her money but his last true move to save himself if I recall was the entire bail bond fraud that was never prosecuted against either Pattis who set it up or Anna Curry who willingly participated in the fraud. At his core FD seemed to have no moral compass and was always looking for the easy way out rather than using his intelligence and education to move forward beyond JF. This is an overly simplistic summary I know, but for whatever reason FD believed that murdering JF was his way forward and so to get to that point took any other possible solutions off the table for him. At the end as in life the only person FD cared about was himself and that I think is his tragic narc legacy to his children.