I completely agree. I usually lurk here, but I felt the need to jump in because some of the comments above insinuated that because SP and JP are/were sociopaths, that genetically speaking, C and B were predisposed, or "doomed" even, to eventually become abusers themselves. At the minimum, they would never adjust.
Yes, I do believe that the trauma from their childhood would haunt them, but self-empowerment truly is amazing. I think many of us have come from terrible upbringings...but many of us are self-aware enough to recognize what is "healthy" and what isn't and seek the guidance or help that we need. My childhood was mostly terrible, but I was resilient, and though I may have some depressive tendencies, and come from a lineage riddled with addicts and mental disorders, I feel as though I have overcome this as much as I can. I certainly would never dream of inflicting any hurt or suffering on my son. He is the love of my life, and I am teaching him compassion and love. So to imply that I shouldn't have had him because of our "genetics" is ridiculous.
Children are a product of their environment, and the boys would have learned what love truly is from their amazing grandparents. They had a chance. Anyway, sorry for the rant. Just my :two cents:
For the record, I've followed many cases, and this is the first to bring me to tears several times. My heart is broken for the Coxes. Wishing them peace.
Good for you surviving and triumphing over your childhood. My intuition is telling me that Charlie and Braden could have been saved from repeating the sickness of their father and SP if the Coxes got custody because I could still see a goodness in their little faces that was not yet ruined. I think their mother (a non-Powell) was also a big influence in the goodness they still retained in themselves. The also had Cox genes in them so I think the Cox genes would have won out if JP was arrested and the Cox's raised them.
I think that's what bugged JP the most, sadly. There were NOT all his, they were half Susan's and her half was winning inside them.