Frigga
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I will add my opinion here, many of you know I have long assumed/wondered if Casey had been molested, and it has never been a popular assumption or question. I wrote/opined just before the trial started that can a sociopath not be molested by someone? Does a lying nature preclude someone with some invisible force field from being perpetrated against? If so, I want my daughters to start lying their heads off!
For all those who believe that an abuse survivor would NEVER leave their baby daughter with their abuser I will tell you, that is just not the truth- it can go either way, depending on the circumstances.
My mother was sexually abused by her father, an upstanding, fun loving elder in our families church. There is a very high likelihood that my moms brother and sister are actually HER children by him. She was 12 and 16 years old when they were born. My mother went on later to have six children, five girls and one boy- I am the youngest. We not only lived with my grandparents (her abuser) on several occasions when my mom was going through her divorce(s), but she sent my next oldest sister and I to stay with him for an entire summer.
My mother never dealt with her own abuse at his hands- how was she supposed to deal with (let alone acknowledge) or heal mine? This is more common than not. I think a great deal is changing now, as times are changing and we are more enlightened and informed about these issues, but think of all the times you hear of some priest or coach that no one in the community is willing to believe is capable of the unspeakable things they are being accused of- when in fact these men are guilty as sin.
NONE OF US CAN KNOW FOR CERTAIN WHAT MAY HAVE HAPPENED TO CASEY- IMO.
As a victim who was not believed by many in my own family- except a sister that came forward to admit her own abuse by him, as well- it is just devastating to hear so many people willing to not even entertain the idea she may have been molested. I think I can vouch for all of us survivors in terms of stating it does not make what Casey did acceptable- far from it- I think she deserves to go to prison for what she has done to that precious baby- but who will be held accountable for what they may have done to her?
These are two separate, yet intermingled issues, and if she was sexually abused , someone needs to answer for that also- don't they?
IF George and/or Lee is proven to be a molester, my question is then- what should happen to him/them? People don't just stop molesting. There will be other victims, you can mark my words on that one.
It hits too close to home, I guess- I don't mean to offend anyone, I just wish to show the other side~ Frigga
For all those who believe that an abuse survivor would NEVER leave their baby daughter with their abuser I will tell you, that is just not the truth- it can go either way, depending on the circumstances.
My mother was sexually abused by her father, an upstanding, fun loving elder in our families church. There is a very high likelihood that my moms brother and sister are actually HER children by him. She was 12 and 16 years old when they were born. My mother went on later to have six children, five girls and one boy- I am the youngest. We not only lived with my grandparents (her abuser) on several occasions when my mom was going through her divorce(s), but she sent my next oldest sister and I to stay with him for an entire summer.
My mother never dealt with her own abuse at his hands- how was she supposed to deal with (let alone acknowledge) or heal mine? This is more common than not. I think a great deal is changing now, as times are changing and we are more enlightened and informed about these issues, but think of all the times you hear of some priest or coach that no one in the community is willing to believe is capable of the unspeakable things they are being accused of- when in fact these men are guilty as sin.
NONE OF US CAN KNOW FOR CERTAIN WHAT MAY HAVE HAPPENED TO CASEY- IMO.
As a victim who was not believed by many in my own family- except a sister that came forward to admit her own abuse by him, as well- it is just devastating to hear so many people willing to not even entertain the idea she may have been molested. I think I can vouch for all of us survivors in terms of stating it does not make what Casey did acceptable- far from it- I think she deserves to go to prison for what she has done to that precious baby- but who will be held accountable for what they may have done to her?
These are two separate, yet intermingled issues, and if she was sexually abused , someone needs to answer for that also- don't they?
IF George and/or Lee is proven to be a molester, my question is then- what should happen to him/them? People don't just stop molesting. There will be other victims, you can mark my words on that one.
It hits too close to home, I guess- I don't mean to offend anyone, I just wish to show the other side~ Frigga