Jeana (DP) said:Darlin, just make sure you cry real tears. That should do.
LOL would never happen
Jeana (DP) said:Darlin, just make sure you cry real tears. That should do.
drtee said:Did you see the mom on tv? She was acting like she was crying, but there were no tears. What was there, though, was eye make up. Not to mention a bow in her hair. Not that I would wear a bow in my hair anyway (not since the 1960s), but I really don't think if my children had been found dead I would have bothered to do the makeup and hair thing.
Very hinky. And I agree with Nan, very Susan Smith.
Miss Daisey said:I think the kids could have made it to the pond by themselves. What doesn't sound right is the length of time the Mom said she was in the bathroom. I've heard 5 minutes...then 15 minutes. If either was the case, she could have probably found them before they got very far....had she started looking for them. Maybe she just didn't start searching for them until much later than she said she did.
I hope she didn't (do) anything to the kids. We will know soon enough.
Maybe because the public is a bunch of vultures, just salivating for the next "good" story. If she didn't come out she'd be criticized as having something to hide.Jeana (DP) said:Regarding the mother going out in public . . . why? Why go outside? I'll never understand why people feel they "owe" it to the media to expose thier grief for the world to see.
Lesleegp said:In cases where it is a tragedy/accident, etc., I don't think you can fairly ask why parents do what they do. They are numb, in shock. They are doing whatever they think will help bring their child home. Now, after they have been found deceases, I have no idea why they would come out like that, other than being in shock.
In cases where parents are involved, then I think they try to appear "normal" and do what they think others have done in the past.
I don't argue that, Jeana. I did that too...locking them in with me in the bathroom. They'd often start flushing the Q-tips...or anything else they got their little paws on before I'd even gotten wet in the shower. I started waiting until my husband was home to watch them before I did anything for myself of a..ahhh...personal nature???Jeana (DP) said:Five minutes is too long to leave children that age unattended. My youngest two were only a year apart and I would bring them with me, put them in a dry tub with some toys and let them play while I did whatever it was that I needed to do. If I was showering, they played on the floor of the bathroom.
Regarding the mother going out in public . . . why? Why go outside? I'll never understand why people feel they "owe" it to the media to expose thier grief for the world to see.
Sorry, Kgeaux ... did not read this far into the thread before posting my speculation this morning! :doh:kgeaux said:....the algae was so thick and so green that he'd thought it was a solid surface like grass. He could not believe he'd gone into the water. These little ones may have thought the same thing.
Miss Daisey said:I don't argue that, Jeana. I did that too...locking them in with me in the bathroom. They'd often start flushing the Q-tips...or anything else they got their little paws on before I'd even gotten wet in the shower. I started waiting until my husband was home to watch them before I did anything for myself of a..ahhh...personal nature???
My youngest 2 are less than 2 yrs apart. It's an absolute fact that they can be gone in a second...or get hurt in the time it takes to just answer the phone. Everyday was a foot race keeping up with them.
Lesleegp said:I can still hear/see Susan Smith in my mind....."Yo mama loves you and yo daddy loves you." Sends chills over me.
You're very welcome, kgeaux. It was a solution I had come up with when the baby was first starting to climb the stairs. I was doing some dishes while she was playing on the floor behind me. My husband had come into the kitchen, and then left again. The baby was also gone so I had assumed that he took her. Meanwhile, he assumed she was still playing on the floor behind me. In reality, she was almost at the top of the steps. Thank God she didn't get hurt. It was at that point that I imposed my new "system" on everyone - lol. I'm very glad to share it if it can help!kgeaux said:Jersey, This is an EXCELLENT thing to do. I am going to pass this system along to everyone I know with small children. I was reading Katherine's post just a minute ago and when she mentioned that it's often when there are MANY adults around that tragedies happen,I realized she was so right, but I hadn't come up with a "plan" for how we could change that....your system is perfect. Thanks so much for sharing how you and your family handle this!
lady-eowyn said:Because things happen...we sometimes forget when we are tired or sick or just distracted...life takes over. And in the Lunsford case I wonder if it is similar to my daughters BF's household. He lives in a similar setup and NEVER uses his front door. The door stays locked at all times, he feels no need to check it everynight because they never use it. I've often wondered if this was the case in the Lunsford household...that the door that was unlocked was a seldom used door. I do recall Mark saying when he found it open something to the effect that "this door isn't unlocked"...making me wonder if Couey didn't break in at some point and unlock the door in anticipation of his crime. We may never know.
At any rate, I don't think we can blame the mom for taking a bathroom break...and remember that a lot of people who live in rural areas like this just don't feel the need to be as cautious as those of us who live in more populated areas. Doesn't mean the shouldn't, just means they have a different way of life.
With that, I have to agree. And kids should be allowed to get into a little trouble now and again, but with parents always right up on them, they never have the chance to be presented with choices that they have to make themselves. It really is very sad.lady-eowyn said:I just feel that children today are missing so much in the way of exploring their world
... Brenda Johnson, who said she has known the family for about four years, said she and her husband went to the couple's home Saturday night after they learned the children were missing. She said she stayed with Kain while her husband joined the search that included 150 people, heat-seeking devices, infrared radar and dogs.maggief said:
PrayersForMaura said:I can understand your point... but two hours?? 6pm? That's close to dinner and little kids at the age of 2 and 3 running around all day with shoes on? I guess I'm making too much out of it.
I won't say that I'm not at all curious about the details coming out today, or that I didn't have questions even yesterday. I am just trying to reserve judgement until I've heard more. But here's a story for you about kids & memory:Julie said:They were little, they wouldn't just walk up to the fence and see a hole ahead of time and try to get through it. again jmho.
I'm not saying that kids that young don't have good memories, but to know exactly where to go?? Has it been said that their parents took them there? Wasn't that place some kind of sanitation pond or something?? Not someplace parents would usually take their kids. IMOJerseyGirl said:I won't say that I'm not at all curious about the details coming out today, or that I didn't have questions even yesterday. I am just trying to reserve judgement until I've heard more. But here's a story for you about kids & memory:
When my baby was very little, we never allowed her to have any fast food, (and I still don't allow her to have it very often). I wouldn't allow my other children to have it around her, and we never bought fast food for the older ones while the baby was with us because I felt it would be unfair for her to watch her siblings enjoying something that she couldn't have.
When she was about 16 months old, we had been doing some Christmas shopping, and my older two were complaining that they were starving. So we stopped at Wendy's. I told the older two not to give her any, and that I would stop at 7-11 to buy the baby a banana to hold her over until we got home. Well, needless to say, the older kids just had to see if the baby would like french fries, and snuck a few to her before I noticed.
A couple of weeks later, I was driving down the same road with just my baby in the back seat. As we drove by, I heard her shout "Wendy's"! And when I looked in my rear-view mirror, she was smiling and pointing at Wendy's.
I've been continuously amazed ever since at the strength of that little girl's memory. When even a very young child enjoys something or is curious about something, I don't know that it EVER leaves their memory!