Jeana (DP)
Former Member
PrayersForMaura said:thanks for the head's up. I plan to now tune in
I pray to God that I'm wrong about this mother and I have to eat crow for the next week.
PrayersForMaura said:thanks for the head's up. I plan to now tune in
lady-eowyn said:Thanks browneyes...it's been a tough year so far...that was the start of all of it too :blowkiss:
Oh, I know everyone is just talking Jeana I guess I just hold a strong stance against judgement because alot of what I hear seems to be based on the "way" people live...like the comments about the tire in the yard, or the run down trailer, or the bow in her hair. It all feels like awful harsh judgement towards someone simply because they are "different" from the "middle America" norm. It could also be because I know people who have lived like this...and I know they would get the same harsh judgment because they dress different, or live different that what is considered normal. But I know these people LOVE their children as much as anyone else. Another thing I think we fail to look at is whether something like depression played a part in this. The mother to me looked "tired"...I get that these people scrape by day to day on a measly paycheck..but are probably too proud to ask for assistance. It's a life many American's live, most of us don't understand it...but it doesn't make them bad parents IMO.Jeana (DP) said:Maybe you're right about withholding judgment, but we're just talking.
JerseyGirl said:I wonder ... if there was anything suspicious, would the coroner be holding a press conference? I would think it would be the Sheriff or police chief if there was something suspicious. I also wouldn't think it would be so soon.
lady-eowyn said:Oh, I know everyone is just talking Jeana I guess I just hold a strong stance against judgement because alot of what I hear seems to be based on the "way" people live...like the comments about the tire in the yard, or the run down trailer, or the bow in her hair. It all feels like awful harsh judgement towards someone simply because they are "different" from the "middle America" norm. It could also be because I know people who have lived like this...and I know they would get the same harsh judgment because they dress different, or live different that what is considered normal. But I know these people LOVE their children as much as anyone else. Another thing I think we fail to look at is whether something like depression played a part in this. The mother to me looked "tired"...I get that these people scrape by day to day on a measly paycheck..but are probably too proud to ask for assistance. It's a life many American's live, most of us don't understand it...but it doesn't make them bad parents IMO.
I know sometimes when I'm in a situation where the grief is unbearable, like losing a loved one, I will cry until no more tears will come...at that point I can still sob but the tears are dried up. But I do know where you are coming from, I felt the same way in the Aisenberg case...but she didn't even sob!! And believe me, these parents will beat themselves up for the rest of their lives for not making the door or gate more secure...I can assure you of that. That will be punishment enough for them...all the what ifs.Jeana (DP) said:Agreed. The only thing about her looks that raised my eyebrows was the apparent lack of tears, but hearing the sobs, if you know what I mean. I don't hold being poor against them, but it would have taken less than a few dollars to make that gate or that door child proof and that I DO hold against them.
Especially since they had bought the lock & simply had not installed it yet.lady-eowyn said:And believe me, these parents will beat themselves up for the rest of their lives for not making the door or gate more secure...I can assure you of that. That will be punishment enough for them...all the what ifs.
Jeana (DP) said:Maybe you're right about withholding judgment, but we're just talking. My problem is that the kids had a history of letting themselves outside. No precaution was taken at either the door to the trailer or the gate outside of the yard, either of which would have prevented the deaths. Secondly, while she could definately be heard "sobbing," the tears were absent. Something we've seen in cases where mom wasn't telling the truth.
lady-eowyn said:I know sometimes when I'm in a situation where the grief is unbearable, like losing a loved one, I will cry until no more tears will come...at that point I can still sob but the tears are dried up. But I do know where you are coming from, I felt the same way in the Aisenberg case...but she didn't even sob!! And believe me, these parents will beat themselves up for the rest of their lives for not making the door or gate more secure...I can assure you of that. That will be punishment enough for them...all the what ifs.
Maybe he's trying to stay busy to keep himself from injuring his fiance. If my husband was watching my children when something like this happened, rational or not, I think I might kill him.londonPI said:okay, but here is my question and maybe i'm wrong...
if your ONLY TWO SMALL CHILDREN were found in a pond dead, would you, only hours later go on not one, but two television shows talking about this? i could see if the children were buried, but on the same day? that is fishy, i just don't see how anyone WOULD WANT to do such a thing hours after their death. if nothing more, why isn't he consoling the family, grandparents, etc.
london, I think this is a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't...seriously. In cases like this it seems that no matter how the parents act, not matter what they do SOMEONE is going to judge them. And sometimes I think the media manipulates people into talking to them...it brings them ratings. Not everyone is media saavy...these seem like just plain folk to me...they probably aren't thinking about what it "looks" like...londonPI said:okay, but here is my question and maybe i'm wrong...
if your ONLY TWO SMALL CHILDREN were found in a pond dead, would you, only hours later go on not one, but two television shows talking about this? i could see if the children were buried, but on the same day? that is fishy, i just don't see how anyone WOULD WANT to do such a thing hours after their death. if nothing more, why isn't he consoling the family, grandparents, etc.
I read that earlier Jeana...I'm so sorry, I can imagine how hard it must be to deal with that, no matter when it happened :blowkiss:Jeana (DP) said:Agreed. As you may know, my little sister was missing for 11 years before her remains were found. I still have to brace myself before I can think about her for too long or I won't be able to stop crying.
JerseyGirl said:Maybe he's trying to stay busy to keep himself from injuring his fiance. If my husband was watching my children when something like this happened, rational or not, I think I might kill him.
I agree...MIGHT...NO I WOULD...JerseyGirl said:Maybe he's trying to stay busy to keep himself from injuring his fiance. If my husband was watching my children when something like this happened, rational or not, I think I might kill him.
lady-eowyn said:I read that earlier Jeana...I'm so sorry, I can imagine how hard it must be to deal with that, no matter when it happened :blowkiss:
I doubt any of us really know WHAT we would do and hope we never find out. I do know that when my mother died, I felt nothing but NUMB for a couple of weeks. I couldn't understand why I wasn't "mourning" properly. I think God makes us numb as a protection to get us through these times. That said, I have suspected the mom from the beginning because of her changing story. That, however, could be the press. I must also say that I wish they would quit talking about her messy house. When my fourth child was born, I GAVE it up, realizing that I would either keep a neat home or I would parent my children. I chose the latter. Now the grandkids are rolling in and the place is still not up to par. Quite frankly, I don't care. I tell my friends to make themselves a trail through the toys or come back another time! (I am exaggerating but just don't think it matters unless the place was filthy or dangerous. Two babies would make keeping up appearances quite difficult)!londonPI said:okay, but here is my question and maybe i'm wrong...
if your ONLY TWO SMALL CHILDREN were found in a pond dead, would you, only hours later go on not one, but two television shows talking about this? i could see if the children were buried, but on the same day? that is fishy, i just don't see how anyone WOULD WANT to do such a thing hours after their death. if nothing more, why isn't he consoling the family, grandparents, etc.