TheDuchess
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I've now been on these boards long enough (and am personally familiar with some suicide victims) to observe that people make all sorts of "normal" transactions shortly before killing themselves. Things like buying perishables they'll never have time to eat/refrigerate, taking out cash from a cash machine, filling up a tank with gas, etc. I'm not a psychiatrist but I think in a lot of cases it's a way to lessen the anxiety around what they're preparing to do by making them feel as though there's always a chance they may not decide to go through with it. Suicide being a serious option for them while not putting all their eggs in one basket until the moment they work up enough courage/despair/resolve/grief/(… to pull the trigger, swallow the pills, make the leap, tighten the noose etc.
While I do agree there are always exceptions to the rule, most people who commit suicide do not exhibit this type of behavior. Many who commit suicide do other things - i.e. give away things, seem unusually at peace, etc.... IMO, making plans more often than points to no suicide over suicide in the majority of cases. Making a hair appointment, ordering something online, signing up for classes, purchasing groceries, etc...