KYangel
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There are plenty of ways to abuse children that do not include bruises, visible neglect or other physical signs, sadly. There are even ways to sexually abuse a child that leave few or no visible signs after the fact. It's all about degree, really, but at the end of the day, abuse is still abuse even when it leaves no noticeable bruises or broken bones. I can't think of too many scenarios in which she was beloved and cherished as she deserved to be that would have ended up with her dead, unidentified, stuffed in a trash bag and dumped. This strikes me as far more sinister. jmo, jme, moo.
You are absolutely correct. Through my work I've seen things done to babies and children, here in "small town USA" In a pleasant little Midwestern town voted a top ten small town of the U.S., that would make any human cry. Three month old infants raped by men, two year olds with multiple internal fractures from sexual and physical abuse, and small children with their insides ripped apart. There are evil, vile people everywhere. And even those who don't abuse sometimes neglect. One in ten newborns in my community are born addicted to drugs, so addicted their skin is wrinkled, no fat underneath, they scream for hours and days as they shake in despair, because Mom chose heroin or pain pills or meth while pregnant. Our society has horrible issues, and our children are suffering.
Under no circumstances is it ever acceptable to leave your child like a sack of trash, and I will never think it is. But I do know from experience the reasons that are given. Yes, 99 percent of the time it is a horrible, vicious excuse. But I also do know that regardless of my opinion or the opinion of any other man or woman I still have to deal with the fact that immigration exists, and these are the reasons that are plausible (lack of financial means for burial, fear of persecution). It doesn't make it right but sadly in our society it happens. And sometimes not because the parents intentionally harmed the child (but sometimes yes), but because there is a language barrier, a culture barrier, and other barriers that co exists. Most U.S. citizens and quite a few illegals are well aware that they can seek and receive health care for their child without fear of deportment, but many have have learned this through time, community friend (often family/friends who they trust who share the information), but they often don't know it is so easily and readily available.
In many cultures, healthcare for anyone is not free or easily accessible. If they were in their home country, they may not seek out immunizations, doctors, antibiotics, etc because they have never been exposed to modern healthcare themselves, and even if they are aware of modern healthcare in their country it may only be available to those with status, certainly not those who are poor or desperate, seeking refuge in another land.
The U.S. houses many nationalities of immigrants. Many are from third world countries, many of these countries would make Mexico look like a progressive country in some ways. Also, some cultures and religions bury their loved ones at sea (common practice) just as we typically bury or cremate. And although we may find this barbaric and I humane to place our child in a bag and sent to the sea, other cultures may find our customs barbaric.
In New England it is legal to have a burial at sea, and there is a business that caters to those who wish to have these. Bodies are taken out to sea a distance, not embalmed, in a vinyl bag, and placed overboard. In Florida, it is illegal, nevertheless, there are thriving businesses that do this very service, even advertising it publicly. They assert that the large population of Cuban/Mexican and illegal immigrants in the state of Florida demands this type of service as they don't have the financial means for a U.S. sanctioned burial so for $500 Your loved one will be slipped into the sea.
I'm not condoning it, but I'm aware and acknowledging that these are problems within our society, acceptable means and customs to some people for burial, and despite my personal view, this happens.
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