KYangel
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Although I understand trying to see this through the eyes of the perp and fathom what possibly happen and WHY and making sense of it, the empathy towards the perp is shocking to me. Where I come from, no one who is capable of leaving a child in a garbage bag, dead and cold like trash is in any way shape or form a caring person. There is no excuse what so ever. Being deported is not an excuse. A "culture" that doesn't report stuff is not an excuse. Having other children is not an excuse. Whoever did this is sick. They did not care for this child. Wrapping a dead child in a blanket before you dump her alone in a garbage bag is not caring or love. It is guilt. It is evil. It is beyond cruel. Just because the child appeared to be well cared for doesn't mean she was.
In an effort to be insightful for this case, many, IMO, try to remove opinion, emotion, or subjection from their thought process, as "my" thought process, or emotions (or customs, fears, or thoughts) may vary widely from that of the person or persons that placed little Doe's body in or near the water.
I'll approach one perspective using my objective viewpoint.... Let's assume this child is the child of illegal immigrants.
Personally, I'd NEVER put my child or anyone I care about in the ocean or in a trash bag for that matter, but: I am a U.S. citizen living in this country legally, with children who have never been abused or neglected by their parents; therefore I have nothing to fear. And as a life-long American, growing up in the Midwest, my previous experience with death and burial usually leads to burial or cremation. BUT, I am not this person, therefore let me consider:
1) IF this family is in the U.S. illegally, they may have felt that they could not come forward with the death of their child. Yes it's possible she may have been abused or neglected (because it's easier for the rest of us to believe that "loving, good" parents would NEVER place a beloved, adored child in a trash in the ocean), but there's another possibility and it's very real: this child, as an illegal immigrant or the child to illegal immigrant parents may not have received immunizations, antibiotics, medications or life saving healthcare that our children enjoy regularly. If a U.S. CITIZEN doesn't provide these for our children it is medial neglect, to an immigrant, they may not know these are/were available even to non Citizen children (Many U.S. citizens don't even know that illegal immigrant children can receive free healthcare in the U.S. With confidentiality).
2). Either way, if the child died as a result, what are their choices? They have limited income for a burial/cremation ($5,000+), and if they bring the death to the attention of any authority it will result in public knowledge that they're here illegally. They've already lost their child to disease or illness (best case scenario).... Or worse, nothing is going to raise her from the dead. So you find a way to give your child a burial (in earth or sea etc). Coming clean to the authorities isn't going to benefit you in any way, you're from a strange land, you're afraid you will be deported - separated from family you may have in the U.S. (Possibly US been children, etc).
I think it's important to realize that if we were from a foreign land, possibly war ravaged or persecuted areas, we may do some very desperate things to survive in this country. We may feel we have very limited options, we may do some very off character things just to remain under the radar for the wellbeing of our family.
It may have been the worst moment in that mothers life the day she held her daughter in her arms and watch her take her last breath (from, lets say chronic asthma for example).... Then she has to watch as the child is left in a bag, like trash, for the ocean current to take her in and keep her forever. Then she wakes the next day and finds the sea didn't take her baby but every person in the U.S. is looking for her and with vengeance. Of course, she may well deserve it, but she may not.
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