AmyPond
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This is the thing that so many normal people cannot understand about the addict's mind. RB is 40, which means that she has had a substance abuse probably of waxing and waning proportions for 25 years. From 15 to 40, a time when people develop and mature, RB got high and partied. I am sure she had times over the years where she was sober for a month or two, but essentially she has been unable to process emotion maturely her entire adult life. You could see it clearly in the birthday video. She is getting mad at Bella for not seeing what she did. It's like when you're five and you run to your mom who is doing adult stuff and you go "look mom, LOOK!" RB has the same maturity level as a small child. She honestly believed that a two year old should have immediately recognized everything she did and had a reaction which indicated delight and praise. The rest of us know that babies that age are completely unpredictable in that regard and none of us would be personally hurt if a baby did not react the way we wanted them to.
Today, we are celebrating my son's 2nd birthday. I keep thinking about little Bella on her 2nd birthday. My son doesn't have a clue that it's his birthday (or rather, was a few days ago.) He won't really understand the presents or cake. I don't expect him to get super excited about any of it. And that's perfectly fine. I cannot imagine basically yelling at him to try to get him to appreciate it all. He is so young. Just like Bella. It makes me sad when I think about her 2nd birthday. And even more sad that she didn't make it to her 3rd birthday because she was born to an awful woman. Why can't all children be born to responsible parents who love them?! Ugh. I will be snuggling me son extra tight after his nap today.