For me, if the fact that she tranferred money and took possessions fromn the home then I don't see this as hinky at all. She left and took money and possessions. (IF true) Also, neighbor saw her drop the kids off?
If the roles were reversed and what is said really happened, I would separate from my husband and file a restraining order to protect remaining assets also.
I agree with you! I am reading all the posts of this thread over and over, trying to find anything that is helpful, but I am getting rather frustrated at what many of you are posting. I see several of you who seem to be wanting to gather info and seem to be keeping an open mind about it all, but others seem to be looking for anything that will incriminate Matt and create a good news story. What a shame that is.
No, it is not "hinky" that he has done just as he has. He's not talking to the media-do you blame him? Anything he says will be analyized to the nth and turned around on him. Of course he is following the advice of his attorney, and would be an idiot not to. As for the restraining order, do you blame him. He doesn't know where she is or what is going on with her... she could come walking in the door at any second and if he hasn't done something to legally prevent it, she can take possessions, the kids, etc and go away again. From the way I see it, if he had done something to her or knew more than he was telling, there would be no need for a RO. I would assume (although I don't know for sure) the seperation filing is an attempt to block her from accessing bank accounts, retirement accounts, and any other assets which she could get to. Be realistic, no matter what is going on with the marriage, should he be forced to handle the investigation, be subjected to the media and public opinion, deal with the children and tyring to keep them safe and calm, and sit back and wonder if she is going to hit another account.
Of course he is searching for her...think about it, it is in HIS best interest for her to be found! If she isn't found, he is going to be blamed. Many of the posters on here are already hinting or downright saying he should be. Whether he is seperated from her or not, whether she is on meds or not, etc. he wants her found so that he can clear himself. That's not selfish or unloving, that's self preservation. Any of us in this situation would do the same. The lives of everyone involved in this have seriously gone to he!! in the past 2 weeks. How would you like your marital problems bared for all to see on the nightly news? Would you be happy to have your life disected and discussed on a forum like this? My guess is that none of us would like it, none of us would know which way to turn and we would take the advice of our attorney too.
I joined this thread to see if there was anything that could help. Any ideas that could produce information. The more heads the better, and a small handful of you seem really to be thinking things through and considering the possibilities. The others really seem to be wanting that big news story. What a shame... Here is the basic truth, there are many details that we are not hearing. The police are remaining quiet and they must have a reason for doing so-for all we know, they have instructed Matt to do the same. In our society all it takes is the one TV news report to destroy someone. Do we remember Tonya Craft? Her life and career were ruined and eventually she was proven to be not guilty.
As I watched the national news this morning, I saw an interview with the mother of Madeline McCann. She was talking about the first weeks after the little girl was abducted, and she talked about how terrible it was to be investigated and in the media. It must be hard to do everything exactly right and say just the right things when you are worried, scared, upset, mad, and all the other emotions that have to occur. I sure don't want to ever be in this position. I don't assume Mrs. McCann or Matt or anyone else would either.
So, my final thoughts are this:
Matt hang in there: I have known you for a long time and I know your a good, kindhearted person. Hug and comfort your kids.
Gail-girl come home. Whatever the problem is, it can be worked out. The family-yours, the Palmgrens and mostly your kids need this to be over with.
I am praying for all of you...