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I am so glad you survived too!! I have a grown child now from that marriage and the same, I avoided everything that I could, including my child because he looked so much like him. I wouldn't even spank him, fearing that I would just go off. We learn so much about ourselves as time goes on.
As bad as this is going to sound, he died when my son was 2 and I am thankful that my son did not grow up around him.
We are Survivors!!
I ended up going out a window with a 4.5 yr old son and 6 month old daughter. We were protected by court order for 5 years, he had no interest in the kids, only me. I never felt so free as the day I heard he died. It was 12 years after I escaped, but he stalked me on and off during those 12 years but never went near my children. I registered my kids yearly at the police station with updated photos and finger prints until he died. I went on to a 18 year relationship with a cop who I only let stay in my house 5 times overnight. My son is scarred as he was older, but my daughter is not. I haven't dated since 2007 I find it still too scary and I am 51. My 18 year relationship ended with his cancer. I want to hit JA and her defense team for this misrepresentation and lies. I am sure it fills you with anger too. I am content and happy now and enjoying two grandsons, and little by little I go out with my daughter to watch a hockey game or football game.
Yes we are survivors, but I thank God that he is dead and wish he would have died sooner as yours did.