I don’t find it odd either. Usually if someone has something to do with a spouse disappearing, they wait until quite a bit later (but not TOO much later if they’re smart) before they report the person missing. Their guilty mind is trying to stick to what “normal” looks like. So I would have expected Rusty to tell police, “He had a Zoom call at 7 and when he wasn’t home at 7, I just figured that he got behind schedule and pulled over and had to do the Zoom on the phone in his car somewhere. And I didn’t start to get worried until 9 because by that time I figured the Zoom call should be over even if it ran over, and he should be home by then.” Something along those lines.I don't find it particularly odd that Rusty was worried early on. This couple seems to have a consistent morning routine. I'm sure Alan had made it clear that he would be back around 6AM to prepare for the conference call. Yet when he wasn't home by 6:15....then 6:30...or by 6:45, Rusty knew something had to be wrong. It feels like this conference call was important which may have been what caused Rusty to assume the worst.
Not much has been shared about this call and I wonder if Alan was troubled over it or dreading it.
I believe that is Mr. White's husband, Mr. Jenkins, on the right in a suit in the 7th image from the top.No spouse in any of the pics I saw in the obituary.
Yet when he wasn't home by 6:15....then 6:30...or by 6:45, Rusty knew something had to be wrong.
Yeah, the quick, very high-level of concern seemed odd to me. But then I checked out the images of their home on zillow. The image of the walk-in closet in particular suggests a very tightly run household. Different strokes for different folks. Was in someone's home not long ago - they had rabbits living freely in the house - like cats. That would be tough to clean up after, and these folks didn't bother....Yes, but why.? Rusty freaking out, going out to find Alan himself and then calling the police because he was less than an hour late home is concerning.
Alan is a grown adult. Didn't Rusty think, oh, maybe he's gone to get breakfast, got groceries, taken another important call on his way back, spent longer at the gym, gone for a swim....??
There are a multitude of things that Alan could have done that caused him to be a bit late.
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MOO.
Yes, but why.? Rusty freaking out, going out to find Alan himself and then calling the police because he was less than an hour late home is concerning.
Alan is a grown adult. Didn't Rusty think, oh, maybe he's gone to get breakfast, got groceries, taken another important call on his way back, spent longer at the gym, gone for a swim....??
There are a multitude of things that Alan could have done that caused him to be a bit late.
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MOO.
Thank you, just to be clear - is it not up for discussion here?It looks like it was posted on the media and timeline thread:
Alan White Obituary - Dallas, TX
Media & Timeline Thread: TX - Alan White, 55, Dallas, 22 Oct 2020 -MEDIA, MAPS, TIMELINE **NO DISCUSSION**
That is not an actual obituary. Legacy a d other sites report deaths even if not a published obitNo spouse in any of the pics I saw in the obituary.
Thank you, just to be clear - is it not up for discussion here?
But Alan had a conference call at 7. He would probably want to come home, shower, dress, and be prepared for the call, just he would be for any appointment.
When two people are together for 18 years as a couple, they are fairly well connected by then. They know each other's patterns, habits, and tendencies. If my significant other had a 7AM zoom call and said he would be home by 6 to get ready, I would be very upset if he hadn't come home or called me by 6:45. He wouldn't buy groceries or go out for breakfast or run errands after the gym. He would come home to prepare for the call.
Some people don't consider 45 minutes late to be a big deal. But knowing of Alan's impending conference call, Rusty had a high level of concern for his husband's wellbeing. And with good reason. Something terrible had indeed happened to Alan.
I think it really depends on the people and the relationship. If I always went to the gym before work and was pretty much home around the same time every day, and one day I never came home and wasn’t answering phone/texts, my husband would FREAK OUT. Quickly. He is a worry wart and would be assuming the worst, probably driving around and calling hospitals. Some people aren’t like that, but some are.Yes, but why.? Rusty freaking out, going out to find Alan himself and then calling the police because he was less than an hour late home is concerning.
Alan is a grown adult. Didn't Rusty think, oh, maybe he's gone to get breakfast, got groceries, taken another important call on his way back, spent longer at the gym, gone for a swim....??
There are a multitude of things that Alan could have done that caused him to be a bit late.
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MOO.
I don't think that they disapproved of Alan's marriage at all. Rusty appeared with Alan's Mom early on pleading for his return. In addition, there are lots of photos loaded on the Funeral Home website of Rusty and Alan, to include ones that appear to be from their marriage ceremony.<modsnip>
Unless I’m missing something at the link, there really isn’t an obituary. What you see there looks like something the funeral home put up, with date of birth and date of death. There is no mention yet of ANY family, not just Rusty. Maybe they’re still working on a personal obit?
ETA: This is entirely speculation. Maybe they decided to forego having a personal obit. If they are a conservative family with some members disapproving of Alan’s homosexuality (again, just speculating, I don’t know if that’s the case), then skipping an obit would be a way to side-step the “land mine” of mentioning Alan having a husband.
THANK YOU Bunny.I don't think that they disapproved of Alan's marriage at all. Rusty appeared with Alan's Mom early on pleading for his return. In addition, there are lots of photos loaded on the Funeral Home website of Rusty and Alan, to include ones that appear to be from their marriage ceremony.
It seems to me that Alan's loving family was fine with his sexual preference and with his choice of marriage partner.
JMO.
I don’t find Rusty’s panic concerning. Some people are highly regimented. My husband is one of those people. Always on time, very little to no deviance from his daily work schedule, exercise schedule, sleep schedule etc. If my husband had a zoom meeting at 7am and had not come home by that time or earlier , I too would be extremely worried and panicky. Jmo
Tim, Alan's brother, posted that a Dateline story was just finished concerning his brother, Alan. I'm not sure when it will air.
Human remains discovered near college campus in Dallas identified as missing businessman Alan White