Insomnia Momma
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In no defense of CA, a mother's love, especially for her female child, is pretty boundless.
As an example, when my 13-year-old daughter tells me she hates me and slams the door in my face, five minutes later, I am making her favorite waffles and knocking on her door saying, "Sweetie, Mom made you a treat. Please come out so we can talk..." Dysfunctional, I know, lol. Heading for Casey-land, I know.
But, still, she can knock me down a hundred times and I am back up to see how much more she needs from me. (Read The Giving Tree - I am already that tree-stump and Wolfkid is still very young, lol.)
The point is that CA is trying to give her only daughter whatever she needs. I kind of understand her position, and, shamefully, would probably do the same myself.
Please don't throw things at me - I know I am posting an unpopular opinion, as it removes Caylee from the equation entirely. In this situation, somehow, at least for Cindy, Caylee's existence did not matter as much as Casey's well state-of-mind.
I think plenty of spoiling and related tantrums are to blame for this. However, I certainly don't see molestation in any way shape or form. Kids don't act entitled like that and scream at their parents if they are really abused. Abused children simply worship their parents and can say nothing wrong to or about them. That is not the case here. KC runs the show and CA is a close second.
I found out last year that my daughter was sexually abused by my then husband. (he is now the exhusband) My daughter did not worship her father and prior to finally telling me after almost 3 years of this she would ask me to divorce him, she would yell at both of us, mostly though she would avoid him. Looking back the signs were there but I never saw them. He did this when I was out of town and she never told me, I had no clue. Once she found out it also happened to another girl we knew she came forward. I was shocked, I would have never thought that could happen in my family. The thing is, you never think it can happen to you and when it does it's a shock. I was surprised when I went to court for this and how people were patting me on the back for believeing my child since I found out the norm in this case is for the mother to cover it up even if she does leave the abuser.
Saying all that I don't think ICA was abused, I believe it was a ploy to see how much her boyfriends "loved her" and she has now taken that ploy over to her defense in a henious crime against her child.
JMHO